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Churches across the U.S. are grappling with dwindling attendance and financial instability, forcing many to close or sell properties.

The Diocese of Buffalo has shut down 100 parishes since the 2000s and plans to close 70 more. Nationwide, church membership has dropped from 80% in the 1940s to 45% today.

Some churches repurpose their land to survive, like Atlanta’s First United Methodist Church, which is building affordable housing.

Others, like Calcium Church in New York, make cutbacks to stay open. Leaders warn of the long-term risks of declining community and support for churches.

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    As churches decline we’re losing what is, essentially, a free communal space. Church was a place where people built community.

    We need to replace it with something, not just cheer because a shitty religion is dying.

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        Not conventions. A convention requires paying for a convention space, and that requires making attendees pay for admittance or getting sponsors to pay in their stead so they can sell products. That’s not community.

        The power of churches is they are entirely free and not commodified. That’s what makes them communal. We’d need something like a communal boardgame hall, supported by donations that anyone can come to without needing to pay anything.

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          Where I live, the library serves this purpose. They even have advertised game nights for various age groups on weekly to monthly basis. Maybe reach out to your public library and see if they would host.

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              Do you mean that you have no library, or the library doesn’t have a game night? If the latter, you could try to start it; it’d just be a matter of getting their permission to use the space, setting a schedule, and putting up a sign. It might not take off immediately; it’d probably help if you brought a friend or two the first few times, but if there’s interest in your community, I bet folks would start coming once it became clear something was happening.

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                I mean my local library has, like, six tables and 10 book shelves. My town has 1200 people. What you’re talking about isn’t realistic.

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                  We’d need something like a communal boardgame hall, supported by donations that anyone can come to without needing to pay anything.

                  All I’m getting at is, you have this - it’s the library. If you have the population to support a boardgame hall, you have the population to support a gathering at the library. Even if this doesn’t apply to you, it surely applies to other people who might not have considered the possibility.

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                Seconded. This would be far more productive than a religion with an obvious agenda/motive, you could build real communities without ties to guilt, tithing, less freedom, etc.

                I like the way you think!

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          The power of churches is they are entirely free and not commodified. That’s what makes them communal. We’d need something like a communal boardgame hall, supported by donations that anyone can come to without needing to pay anything.

          I think you don’t understand “Free”. They weren’t free.

          Use required, at the very least, selling your soul. But more pragmatically, a flat 10% tax- which frequently funded ostentatious lifestyles of the priests and pastors; and sacrificing your children to pedos.

          But sure. It created “community”…

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            Use required, at the very least, selling your soul.

            But since souls aren’t real it was free.

            But more pragmatically, a flat 10% tax-

            Tithes are voluntary. Taxes are enforced at the tip of a sword or the barrel of a gun. Quiet different.

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              I think they meant soul as in personhood or however you want to put it, its metaphorical speech ya pedant.

              Secondly tithes are socially enforced to what degree depends on what group we are talking about but at minimum there is an expectation that you pay it, you also get fuck all out of it making it a completely empty transaction unlike taxes which gives roads, fire departments, libraries, et cetera.

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                Okay, but they did get something out of it. They got the Church, and the services it provided them. We can replace that with tax funded secular institutions, but it doesn’t seem like that’s happening.

                Instead the church dies and nothing replaces it.

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          Honestly a community hall that fills similar roles to the library as others mention would be awesome. You could get people running community brunches on weekends, you could get holiday parties and rooms for groups to meet. You could use it to host food not bombs or other food giveaways. You could let it be what churches are supposed to be, but replace the pastor and pews with a meal space and some administrators

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          Around here the churches require you to submit your personal finances so that they can tell you how much you need to tithe in order to attend services.

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      That “community” is a judgmental indoctrinating shithole that destroys people.

      Good riddance.

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        Okay, but that community also kept me from being homeless as a child. I got to eat food when otherwise I wouldn’t.

        We need to replace it, we can’t just let community die with nothing in its place.

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            We need more than that. We need places where people go regularly and choose to interact with each other. Church sucks, but seeing your neighbors, engaging in community activities like celebrating births and marriages and holidays and just regularly seeing each other and being reminded of your connections to each other are important. People talk about modern isolation and by giving up community activities and spaces that’s what we get.

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            Neither my local library nor school has a weekly get together where we all hang out and talk.

            Also, uh, not everyone has kids. Do they not deserve community?

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              My local library has weekly reading days, crochet club, adult focused book clubs, and regular events.

              But the thing is that people in the community helped start those things. If your library doesn’t have any you should probably talk to them about starting something. I’m sure they’d be more than happy to be involved and increase the amount of people that visit!

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              Bullshit. Libraries have book & game clubs. They host speakers, authors, and musicians. They offer short classes in typing, office software, graphics software. All of it is free of charge. You could easily spend 4-5 nights a week hanging out at a library chatting of you wanted.

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                Yeah they don’t all do that. I was suggesting we expand the usage of libraries and schools to be the community center everywhere, because it has proven to work in many places. And it can do more.

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                My little library that serves the 1200 people spread out over seven villages in my county doesn’t have any of that.

                Do you think I’m lying? Or am I just too stupid to know what the little library connected to the elementary school offers?

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                  Perhaps you could meet the pleople who work in the library and try to organize something with them? Community gatherings need a push to start happening and people willing to organize them. If you miss these oportunities, create them, it’s not that hard and it’s very rewarding.

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                  Wow congrats! And did you know not all churches are seen as community centers? You’re arguing against one persons anecdote with your own.

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                    I mean, I’m trans and some kind of bi/pan, it’s not a community for people like me anyway. I can still recognize that it exists though?

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              Libraries actually almost always have multiple events a week. You may want to check your local branch out. Also, you’re describing a very extroverted interest.

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              The school was about what you said feeding kids. And yes, a lot of libraries have reservable meeting space now. More should for exactly the reason you are saying. I am agreeing with you about needing to fill the void, and saying we should expand schools and libraries to better and more consistently do that. Currently they probably only do that in blue states.

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                It sounded like you were telling me that there wasn’t a problem, because schools and libraries exist.

                Schools and libraries aren’t filling the void. They can, if we make them, but it’s not automatic.

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                  Yeah, my bad. They do in some places, and I want them to do so in more. I also would like to reduce thier dependence on local government for funding.

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          That charity likely came from the community, not just the church. In my little town I can’t give money or food to any groups other than churches. So that’s where my money goes, despite not belonging to a church.

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            You’re right, and I am not defending the Church. We need ways for the community to express its charity without the church, because the church is dying.

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              My daydream is that the building remains open, the community remains welcome, there are helpful lectures on dealing with life’s hassles, and potluck dinners in the basement, and it’s all on a voluntary pay-what-you-can basis — sorta like a church, only without the god.

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        It didn’t use to be. I remember most churches on the 80s had a message of, “try to be a good person” and then everyone would hang out and chat. Pretty chill space. Can’t stand going to any churches now.

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        Yeah but now we have a vague aura of judgemental indoctrinating philosophy and 0 community. We’re basically where we were just without any of the benefits. There’s some opportunity to build something new and better here.

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        The library isn’t community, you can’t even talk to people there. It’s a quiet place by its very nature.

        And squatting? That’s better, but it’s ephemeral. You can’t get attached to your squat, the cops can come at any moment and then everyone has to bail and find a new squat. That’s not good enough.

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          The library isn’t community, you can’t even talk to people there. It’s a quiet place by its very nature.

          You do know that the vast majority of libraries have events going on every week? From dozens of book clubs through movie clubs. Heck, my local library had a troupe of mongolian gymnasts come through that was ridiculously fun.

          Libraries are way more a public forum than churches ever will be. Go to any bible belt church in the south wearing a rainbow and you likely won’t even be let in through the front door. Or walking in with the wrong color skin.

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            You do know that the vast majority of libraries have events going on every week?

            No. I have no idea what you’re talking about. Maybe if you’re in a city? My local rural library does jack shit, it just has a few shelves and a computer lab. That’s not community, not the way the local rural church is with soup kitchens and holiday events.

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              It sounds like your library is underfunded, but you should check with them anyway because they probably are doing things, you just don’t hear about them for various reasons. Local governments love to cut library funds and then use the lack of use to cut it further, and making it hard to know what events your library does is part of that.

              My local library suffers from the same issue, but we at least have a community center the town built with meeting rooms and a gym that you can use for events. The closest city just renovated one of their libraries to include a second floor with meeting rooms and a cafe. I think another one had kitchen space added to it.

              Churches are really just community space that got a pass from conservatives and capitalists in the rush to commidify every part of the human experience.

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                Every library is underfunded, and yes, that’s because the right hates communal spaces. We don’t have a community center, there’s like, 1200 people spread out over a 15 mile strip of seven different villages. There’s the church, and nothing else.

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              Skill issue. The local library in my home town does a readalong every weekend and a bunk fund every month.

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          Churches aren’t community centres and they are highly exclusionary. Libraries are vastly undersold to the public but they do still offer TONNES of services and hold all kinds of community events. I’ve personally seen them as part community centre, part summer camp, or part theatre, among other things. They offer programs to help the homeless, they let you use the internet for free, and they are places of learning that aren’t spewing nonsense. They do so much for the community and they don’t even require you to do or believe anything in return.

          Churches only have as much of a community as anything else that gathers weekly. My weekly social dances have the same thing, someone else might have a big game night at a board/cardgame shop, and others may go to the pub. One place near me has a giant folk music jam you can just roll up to to play or watch. Churches aren’t only not the only place to go for community but they’re also not even that good at it.

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            Churches aren’t good enough, but the are certainly community centers.

            My weekly social dances have the same thing, someone else might have a big game night at a board/cardgame shop, and others may go to the pub.

            We don’t have any of that shit, and a pub is not a communal space. You have to pay for it.

            We have a church. A shrinking church that will die when all the boomers die. That’s it.

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              Ok, so it sounds like the church is a bad community investment but if the building is repurposed into a community centre run by the municipality then that’s the best option, no? It can even hold religious services for multiple religions now that it’s just a building.

              Also you could totally have dances in a church! The social dances where I’m from are held in the basement of a church on Fridays. Before it moved to a community centre the organization where I live now held them in a church that had been converted like I mentioned above.

              Your issue is a lack of imagination, not a lack of church.

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          you misunderstand it’s the corporate landlords squatting on the prime real estate they snapped up from the church so their competition can’t move into town. I’m sure they’ll attempt to murder anyone trying to survive on their vacant land.

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      My daughters (public) school choir had to pay $2500 to rent a church for their winter performance last year. Well, didn’t have to, but the teacher wanted a different space than the school and apparently everyone thought that was an acceptable amount of money for a 2 hour performance. I was pretty upset when I learned the cost.

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      Unfortunately the internet is now the new 3rd space.

      Religion advocated for bad policies in government which dug their own grave.

      I don’t feel bad they’re closing down.

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        The internet isn’t a third place! Not only do you have to pay to access it, but more importantly, it isn’t a physical place. None of us are people here. We’re strings of characters on a screen behind pseudo-anonymous handles. You can’t help me, I can’t help you.

        This is not community. It can’t be.

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            Not on the internet. I’m a string of characters. I don’t have a face, I don’t have a voice, I don’t have a body, I am a handle and a comment tree. I cease to exist as soon as you aren’t paying attention to this comment chain. I could be a bot, you have no idea.

            The internet can never be community. We are only human when we do human things. This digital space isn’t human at all.

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              I mean, why are you even here then? Exchanging information IS a human thing, and we’re (probably) all people behind the screens. I agree that physicality is a necessity for a 3rd space, but I disagree that it’s necessary for community.

              To say that we can’t help people with our words strikes me as rather pessimistic.

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                I’m here for fun, not community. None of this shit matters. It’s not real.

                I don’t know why I’m here. Just to get ganged up on and hurt myself.

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                  ._. *patpat*

                  It do be like that sometimes…

                  But even having fun maybe matters too?

                  I’m sorry you got ganged up on… I, at least, enjoyed reading your comments.

                  Edit:

                  It just occurred to me that tone really doesn’t come across on the internet, and “Why are you even here then?” could be read in an accusatory way, when I really didn’t intend it as such. I meant it in more of an interrogatory sense, and I wasn’t trying to be mean. I was curious. ._.

                  You have as much right to be here as anyone else!

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              The internet can never be community.

              Bullshit. There are millions of communities on the internet. Maybe not the kind of communities you personally want, but communities just the same. Don’t gatekeep how others interact with different social groups.

              Also there are countless communities that exist both online and in meatspace. You can enjoy people in the real world, go home and resume those connections via internet with the same people. Those people don’t cease to exist when they’re not physically standing in front of you.

              These are not just letters on a screen. They were put here by a human being named Kevin. I have an entire life, history, interpersonal connections, my own thoughts and feelings. Tomorrow you will likely see more things that I write along with everyone else who’s part of This community.

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                There are no communities on the internet, there are ephemeral places where people go to waste time. That’s it. That’s what the loneliness epidemic is. People are killing themselves because the internet is not community and it can never be one.

                Have you ever wondered why people on the internet are so nasty? It’s because we can’t actually see each other as people here. Yes, you assume every commenter is a person, but your subconscious can’t see it. There’s no face, no voice, no body, no presence, and its even worse with pseudo-anonymity. This isn’t community. You don’t even know my fucking name.

                I have an entire life, history, interpersonal connections, my own thoughts and feelings and none of that is on the internet. Here I am a floating text box for you to yell at and talk down to, and for all you know I am a bot. You will never care about me or anyone else on a forum the way you will a real person, no matter how much you insist otherwise. You can’t, because this isn’t a community. We are all perfect strangers that are here to beat each other up for fun.

                We can’t help each other here. You have to log off.

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                  I have met some of the closest friends I have ever had on the internet. There is a space on the internet I go to every day to interact with people who I am close with as people I grew up with. We’ve met up in person and were just as good friends.

                  I also have friends around the world I have spent years sharing my life with and theirs with me- photos, videos, things they’ve written or drawn, questions, deep conversations… and I’ve never met them in person. I have a dear friend in Turkey who I have known since the 1990s and we’ve never met. I love him like a brother because we’ve helped each other through so much even though we’re on opposite sides of the planet.

                  You need to stop projecting your experiences on everyone else.

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                  1. You’re projecting.

                  2. I actually fell in love with someone after dating in virtual reality during COVID. After several months she moved to my state, and we’ve been together for four years now. Seems pretty fuckin real to me.

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                  I mean, does that matter that much? Your irl name is just an identifier that points to you. Just like queermunist is an identifier that also points to you.

                  I’ve seen you before, I’ve read some of your comments. I wouldn’t say I know you per se, but I at least recognize your name in passing and have an inkling of what to expect from you.

                  You could almost think of it as we both go to the same school, but have different friend groups so maybe never really interact, but still know each other exists.

                  And some of the more prolific users I understand a bit more of. And some of the smaller communities I’m part of I know all of the regular users a little bit better.

                  But you’re right, it’s a bit harder than in person because you can’t put a face or mannerisms to the handle, but I think you can still know people here a little bit.

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                    Also, it seems weird that someone who is openly trans is complaining that we don’t know people’s names rather than us knowing the names people chose for themselves.

                    I’m fine with my real name, but if the world called me Flying Squid, I’d be cool with that too.

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              The internet can form community but it’s not the same. I’m about to move across the country and crash with a friend I met through the internet; and I’ve only seen her irl twice. That whole friend group are some of my best friends. And they aren’t even the only close friendships I have through the internet.

              But also, I’ve done the only socialize online thing and it broke my mind in college and again in the pandemic (which is when I met both friend groups I mentioned earlier). I need physical places where I can interact positively with other physical humans. I need physical places that I can coexist with other people and that’s what an actual third space is. And I’ve seen what only existing on the internet does to people and it’s not good

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                Yes yes thank you, this is what I meant. I know I pissed a lot of people off by saying that internet communities aren’t real, but what I meant is that they aren’t a replacement for community. The distance, the lag, the lack of a face or voice or body, the time zones, there’s so many elements that make internet “community” into something that I struggle to call community.

                If people want to call it community then fine, but it’s not a neighborhood or a workplace or (in the earlier example) congregation.

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                See, this kind of nastiness proves my point. I’m not human to you, I’m a random encounter in the posting RPG.

                You just want to hurt me so you can win. That’s not community.

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                  You’re obviously human. Not someone i would talk to in person, but still human.

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                    What the fuck did I do to you to deserve you talking to me this way? Really feeling the community here.

                    Do you treat strangers like this in real life? I doubt it. That’s the key difference between internet and reality.

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              Sorry, Im pretty sure thats all were likely to get. The way things are going well be lucky to have public schools in 20 years, let alone a bunch of new publicly funded community spaces.

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          I know you’re getting dragged in the comments / downvoted, but the premise that the internet is not a fully reasonable ‘third’ place has some rationality, as does the premise that churches have been this ‘third’ place for many. And I think ‘third’ places are where leftist community-engagement thrives, even in religous settings.

          I mention leftist simply because many here are commenting from leftist Lemmy instances, myself included. Historically – and for a moment, consider this outside the typically nonreligious, leftist approaches to community building – churches have occupied a helpful, physical ‘third’ place like this for centuries.

          When they are healthy, churches have been relationship hubs of solidarity and mutual aid. They have also been regularly used platforms from which to mobilize for social justice and collective action – even today, I know of some churches that are engaged directly in social justice and collective action for queer communities, debt reduction / removal, resource sharing, and more. Liberation theology is gravely leftist, as well, and comes from Latin American churches with leftist clergy and non-clergy at the helm of both theory and praxis. The Civil Rights Movement was borne out of black American churches, and suffrage movements met in churchhouses as much as anywhere else. This list goes on.

          Liberation / radical inclusivity activities can spring from any setting where people gather regularly and talk about change. While the internet can make that sometimes easier, it has been historically in-person, where folks gather, that these movements find momentum time and again. ‘Third’ places are historically and functionally physical.

          Theory is great for the internet, and even some community-engagement through internet discussions on theory is great. Some, but not all.

          Praxis happens offline, though, in anti-technofeudally controlled arenas.

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            I don’t know how people can insist “the internet is a community!” then then use downvotes as if that shit isn’t toxic to community.

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          I think it counts as a third place. All it really takes to be a third place is not being home or work. Whether physical or not is definitely debatable and I think physical third places are a must, but I don’t think a third place being paid disqualifies it.

          For one, a lot of folks don’t have to pay for internet. I can go to my local library or community center and be online if needed. There are also some government programs that may provide free internet. But even if it is paid, typical third places have traditionally included settings like cafes, bars, the gym, bookstores, theaters, etc. which are also all pay-to-use environments.

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              Why’s that? Any enthusiast hobby is the basis of community, and that typically includes some degree of material investment into said hobby.

              I used to take martial arts classes, which was a great way to meet new people. And we’d have opportunities to get together and meet outside of our regularly scheduled classes, but the unifier that brought everyone together was the class that we were each paying to attend.

              I mean, even in the church example, you get guilted for not donating when they pass the collection box around. What difference is there with a community that shames you for not paying?

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                Sorry, I meant “can not” in the sense that we can’t let that be the basis of community.

                Commodified spaces and hobbies alienate people who can’t afford to pay. The church, at least, allows the poor to attend.

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                  I’m not sure if the church “allows” the poor insomuch as they simply need the poor. The vulnerable members of society are really the church’s only vehicle for growth, and so they take advantage of the needs of marginalized people to spread their ideology. Indoctrination masked behind charity. It’s more of an exploitative relationship in that regard.

                  Secular meeting spaces with no cost would be preferred, and they definitely exist, but you’ll be hard pressed to find a sort of standardized approach across environments and demographics without the dictatorial voice of god (or the state) demanding compliance to the degree the church does, which makes it an institution.

                  As another example, I also used to be part of a local Cantonese language practice meetup that would meet once weekly at our local mall. It was a small group, but we’d just sit at the food court and practice basic conversations. No barrier for entry, all welcome, but not the sort of thing that would have broad appeal, you know?

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                    I’m not sure if the church “allows” the poor insomuch as they simply need the poor.

                    That’s a distinction without a difference.

                    Commodified spaces do not need the poor, and in fact, they want them to go away.

                    at our local mall

                    Another public space that’s disappearing as malls close.

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          A third place has nothing at all to do with what is and isn’t paywalled. If I rented a Boeing 787 to take day trips with my friends every day for the next month, that’d still be a third place. It has everything to do with the first place being home and the second being work. It also has nothing, therefore, to do with “community” or “not community”.

          Even if we work under your (completely wrong) definition of third places as inherently fostering tight-knit community and not just being a place for you to exist around other people, smaller communities absolutely have the opportunity to do this. Roblox was one of my main third places when I was a kid, and it was a better third place than I could’ve had in real life. I met actual, real friends who I talked to daily for years and who accepted me. Right now I work on Wikipedia, which if you spend long enough there unambiguously has a community among the more experienced editors. I’m even in a Discord server where I joined for the project, ended up joining the team, and now feel like I’m good friends with the people there. Even Lemmy I’d say is small enough to start seeing a lot of familiar faces over time.

          The Internet isn’t inherently bad at fostering community. It’s just that the modern Internet places a fuckload of emphasis on being in gigantic, uninteractive pools of people like Twitch chats that fly at a million miles a second and require you to spend $500 for a streamer to blink in your direction; a shitty short-form video service where you can comment and like but aren’t seriously befriending anyone outside of extreme edge cases; a gigantic link aggregator where what you say is almost always drowned out immediately; multiplayer games that have new lobbies every match; etc.

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            I don’t think the people you meet on Roblox or Wikipedia can be community the way a church can. Even if you want to force the definition of community to include ephemeral, non-physical, and paid places then you have to accept that a church fills a far different kind of communal void than the internet. People at your church can come to your house and help you do stuff. That’s huge! You’d struggle to get any kind of real, tangible help from an internet place. Maybe some money, but that’s it.

            That just doesn’t feel like community to me.

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              Real community is when people are in a cult whose authority figures systematically molest children. Got it.

              Any other words of wisdom, oh one so ignorant of what a third place is?

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                Real community is when people can go to each other’s houses and help with difficult chores, or can cook food for each other and eat together, or can take care of one another when they are sick, or hide from government agents who come to kill their neighbors.

                Death to Christianity. I am not making any defense of the church. In fact, I literally said we need to replace it. 🙄

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                  Religion in general fosters these sorts of toxic power structures because it’s based on fucking nonsense.

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                    The church kept me from being homeless as a kid and helped our family eat when we didn’t have food.

                    When the church is gone, some kids who were in the situation I was in will have nothing.

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          You pay for nearly every third space.

          Bars,bowling alleys, sports leagues, internet, and even churches.

          In every space you are a name with a personality

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          Of course there are no people online. We’re all dogs using the internet while the humans are at work.

          Yall are dogs to right?

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          That’s opportunity cost - they would have money for a community center if they didn’t spend it on the church.

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              Per capita contributions haven’t gone down nearly as much as attendance, though. Churches are losing money because the public is rejecting them on principle.

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                Not what I meant.

                I mean, people aren’t going to church, and they’re just spending the money on themselves. Bills and shit. People who stop going to church aren’t donating it to their community center, which means community centers are not replacing churches.

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                  I thought we were discussing what could be? Or what ought to be? I understand that community centers have not already replaced churches.

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                    We’re discussing what can be. Can they replace churches? How do you get people to donate? The church could get people to donate because of guilt and sin and shit, the community center can’t do that.

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      We need to replace it with something, not just cheer because a shitty religion is dying.

      Why not both?

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        We need a new religion that worships reality with clerics who are trained in humanities, epistemology, and combatting disinformation.

        EDIT: Apparently reality isn’t as popular as I’d hoped.

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          That was my point?

          If you’re not sure whether that’s your point, we’re not gonna be much help.

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            We need communal spaces that aren’t churches. That’s my point. I think I was pretty clear about that too.

            They basically just repeated what I said, and so I was confused about what they think my point actually was.

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      As much as I’m happy to see churches go, I agree with this. I used to go to church even as a non believer for this reason. Outreach into the community is much easier when backed by an organization that is trusted, and has resources at their disposal.

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      In sectarian societies, there are community centres, free library’s and non-religious community groups with public spaces.

      Even in Capitalistic societies, shopping centres and shopping malls are a place for communities to grow.

      The myth that Community requires Region was created by religions so they could more easily control their indoctrinated (just like capitalism).

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        When did I say community requires religion?

        Also my society doesn’t have jack shit. We’re all alone and it’s only getting worse. There’s nothing for me. If all y’all have community that’s fucking great, but so many of us are being left behind.

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      While I like that the church is less popular, you are right. A sense of community is needed for a social species like us humans. This is how street gangs work, they recruit young and probably lost/lonely kids and make them feel like they are part of something.

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      It’s not free, though… I’ve watched my mother give obscene amounts of money to the church. She even did it when I was growing up, and we had NO extra money to give.

      So yeah, cheer. Replace these with something better, like an affinity club with upfront dues that are significantly cheaper.

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      It’s not just religions drying up, it’s all of the old hierarchical social clubs. Their membership are aging and dying off, and they’re not doing anything to recruit Millennials or GenZ. The internet opened up vast opportunities for non-work social contact and relaxed the demand that people gather in one physical place at a fixed time with rules to minimize chaos.

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        Okay, we are physical beings and we need to gather in physical spaces.

        We can’t all just be alone in our homes screaming at each other on the internet.

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      I’d bet a lot of American churches could fairly easily be converted into small music venues.

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        Architecturally sure but zoning wise probably not. I can actually sympathize with nimbys in this scenario, locked into a mortgage next door to a church vs next door to a music venue with a liquor license are two totally different scenarios.

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          A lot of American Protestant chuches already are music venues in the sense that they hold 2 or 3 services a day, which involve 15-45 minute musical sessions, with mics, amps, audio leveling/equalizing equipment, etc.

          These are the ones I am referring to.

          No, not the insane, literally stadium sized mega churches.

          Just your run of the mill, Protestant chuch serving a few hundred people, built in the last 20 years in America.

          Plenty of these are built in the middle of residential neighborhoods.

          With zoning laws… these of course vary widely, but generally, as long as you aren’t playing music outside of basically daylight hours, you are fine.

          I’ve even actually seen some definct churches converted into night clubs, but that is the scenario where zoning laws and permits become more of a hassle.

          As far as just… a daytime, small to medium music venue?

          Probably any defunct church that was originally designed to accomodate daytime, amped up worship services, or retrofitted for such, is already built according to relevant noise regulations.

          … Also, you can have a music venue without a liquor liscense.

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            Unless you mean like a cafe or restaurant that also happens to have live music sometimes not really. It’s not really financially viable. A 50-200 person venue that doesn’t serve alcohol and only has shows during the day is not a niche that exists.

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        A lot of them are built with acoustic architecture, so definitely. Also lecture halls, debate halls, maybe even public theater.

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        Is this a Catholic thing? I’ve been forced to attend many different churches and none of them forced my family to pay anything.

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        Only in Germany. In America, that is optional. In fact, most of these closings could be avoided if all members gave 5%. Average is much lower.

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          Just because no one is taking it directly from the paycheck does not mean it’s “optional”. Religions in general, and Christianity in particular are very good at coercing donations.

          Most the places that are closing are closing because they never managed to get kids in and brainwashed and their core followers are aging out of an income.

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      I wish I could buy into the idea of church as a community; my mom very much saw it that way. However, church is inherently exclusive. It turns away people who refuse to conform to very specific beliefs. It’s hard for me to root for or even accept that as a communal space.

      I want to see more YMCA and less church.

      Edit: yes I know the Y is technically a Christian thing, but it’s not the religion I object to it’s the exclusion. Never been to a Y that felt like I needed to be Christian to be there.