Perhaps you’ve noticed. We have reached a tipping point in the country over tipping.

To tip or not to tip has led to Shakespearean soliloquies by customers explaining why they refuse to tip for certain things.

During the height of the COVID-19 pandemic, customers were grateful for those who seemingly risked their safety so we could get groceries, order dinner or anything that made our lives feel normal. A nice tip was the least we could do to show gratitude.

But now that we are out about and back to normal, the custom of tipping for just about everything has somehow remained; and customers are upset.

A new study from Pew Research shows most American adults say tipping is expected in more places than it was five years ago, and there’s no real consensus about how tipping should work.

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    Tipping needs to end. It’s the employer’s responsibility to make sure their employees are paid reasonably. Instead they pass that responsibility to the customer, ensuring tension between customers and staff.

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      It’s almost like the profit motive is corrosive and requires stringent safeguards else it’ll corrupt and destroy everything… for profit!

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      I used to be a consistent tipper.

      Now I refused to tip at all.

      I want workers to demand what they are worth to their employers, and I’m willing to be the asshole to help them accomplish that.

      If we all stopped tipping, they’d have no choice but to turn the low wage issue around onto their employers. Then employers will have no choice but the pay their workers more, because otherwise they’d leave their industry for something else.

      I don’t care if that means we, as consumers, have to pay a bit more for the food and service. I don’t care if that means that some businesses won’t survive. I want fairness all around

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        I refuse to tip anywhere new and expand this practice… But with things like restaurants or delivery? Without organization, all that does is further underpay people for their work and increase the chances of spitting in your food

        I don’t think there’s a good answer, so I just do it much less

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          As far as delivery, if I’m charged a delivery fee “because reasons”, that’s the extra money that is my tip. If they’re asking for a tip as well, then no.

          But instead of just not tipping, I just don’t get delivery, which I haven’t since the pandemic. Two or three experiences where I was trying to order and all the add on fees plus tips meant that dinner for one was going to cost over $45 and dinner for two, over $60 (when the entrees themselves were like $12-15) and basically that was enough to convince me not to do it.

          At one place there was a delivery fee, a delivery service fee, a “take out packaging” fee, a service fee, a charge for ordering less than $25, a driver fee (which they were quick to tell me was not a tip)…and of course still asked for a tip, with the options being 20, 22, and 25%. Even choosing the lowest tip, my single meal was going to cost $46 for food that I could walk in, sit down, order, eat, tip, and leave…all for under $25.

          Basically I just don’t get delivery now, and while I know that won’t break the system, maybe if enough people join me it will.

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          I used to think that way as well. But really, if spit in my food is being used as a threat to tip someone isn’t that extortion?

          I’m polite, easy to serve, and even if the food is over-cooked and way too salty (as it was for the single taco I ordered last time I was out) I don’t ask for it to be returned. I’m a model customer, except I won’t tip.

          I’m not doing it to be cheap, or out of spite, or in disrespect for the service personnel. I’m doing it to apply pressure so that things will change for the better

          Think of it as passive guerilla tactics against a broken system

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            But what about the inherent coercion of capitalism? The fear of having your food spit in is a kind of coercion, but despite the system being broken, people who rely on tips need that money to survive

            It’s a messy issue. If everyone refused to tip as a matter of course and they were paid a living wage I think things would be improved, but on a more immediate and direct level you’re reducing their pay

            It’s a systematic problem… Maybe it can be handled individually, but that will create a lot of issues until the pressure of individuals can prompt systematic change

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              I would rather they felt the pressure to move on to different employment (if they can find it) than deal with the uncertainty and fickle nature of tippers

              Where I live some restaurants have started requesting no tips because they pay their workers what they’re worth. If those are around when I go out, I go there. In their absence I don’t tip

              Other countries of the world have it figured out, why can’t the U.S? We can be better. Sometimes you have to take a hard stand that feels counter-intuitive to the causes you believe in, in order to push things in the right direction. Do I feel bad about not tipping? Certainly. But I want change for the better and that requires applying pressure to the right places

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                I’m not ideologically opposed to what you’re saying - I agree with the end goal, I’m just worried about methods. I’m even fine with tipped employees suffering for a bit during transition

                But changing jobs is purposely difficult…I don’t think that’s a fair demand through effectively reducing their wages

                On the other hand, you brought up something great - if you have places around that have transitioned to a living wage, why not push to go there instead? Restaurants can make this change in a couple weeks if properly motivated, but it would take months of employees struggling until they leave to affect that level of change, and I’d argue a restaurant is more likely to look around and adopt a better business model when their customers dry up than to realize the reason they can’t keep staff is due to tipping expectations

                I’m all for your strategy to pressure the holdouts once the tides have turned in an area, and maybe your area is at that stage… But I don’t think most of the country is nearly there yet

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                  For sure. It’s just that the last time I was out I wasn’t able to do that. (An old employer had asked me to help out for the day on short notice, and I was on foot because driving/parking in the area is an expensive nightmare and there wasn’t enough time to take a bus)

                  Frankly I’d rather make food at home. I’m a decent cook and don’t have to be concerned with morality at all :)

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      Been in Japan this summer. A culture where tipping is non-existent. It was such a great experience to not worry about tipping. Instead you simply get outstanding service all the time and workers are simply paid a fair wage.

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      There’s nothing wrong with tipping. I like the option to reward someone who made my experience great. Keyword there is option. Employers should pay employees a living wage, and if customers want to reward a great job with a few bucks on top of that, that should be allowed, even encouraged, but should never feel obligated to tip or shamed for not tipping.

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        You should feel ashamed for making someone act as your slave for minimum wage. The least you could do is pay them what they’re worth.

        If you don’t like it, don’t force tipped workers to work for you. You have full control here. You could just cook your own damn food.

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          I said living wage, homie, not minimum wage. I think everyone should be paid at least a living wage, I just said tipping in general isn’t bad - it just shouldn’t be used to supplement poor wages.

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            Okay, but they don’t have a living wage, so you don’t get to have that option. Either tip or stop using those services.

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              What fucking conversation do you think you’re a part of? Because you’re clearly not reading my comments before responding to them.

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                You said customers should never feel obligated or ashamed. Never. I definitely feel ashamed of using these services and feel obligated to tip generously, and you should too.

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                  So we’re in agreement then? Why are you lighting me up when we’re clearly on the same side? You need to learn to recognize an ally and save the anger for someone who deserves it, or you’ll find yourself without any allies.

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                  You’re either intentionally being obtuse or are just plain stupid. Customers SHOULDNT be in a position of being forced to tip or be ashamed for normal acitivitues. Absolutely required tipping should not be a thing. It should be optional. It doesn’t matter what the current culture is, because that’s not the conversation. That’s the point.

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    I went to a brewery recently where they swipe your card at the entrance and hand you a little black credit card type thing. You find your own seats, you go grab a glass, and you insert the card into a slot at a beer tap and pour your own beer, priced by the ounce. If you want food, you go to a kiosk, put your card in, and order food. When it’s ready, you go to the kitchen and pick it up to bring back to your seat. When you leave, you bring the card back up to the register and they charge you for all the food and drink. But then it asks you how much you wanna tip. Who the fuck am I tipping? I was my own host, my own bartender, my own waiter, my own bus boy. I haven’t seen an actual employee here except for some woman who swiped my credit card during a 5 second interaction.

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      I went to a brewery like this as well. Pretty annoying to have to carry your own food out from the kitchen because they weren’t optimizing for take out. They had heavy plates and bowls. Also, feel like rather than sitting and relaxing I’m forced to get up and run around looking for condiments and silverware and water cups. Can’t make it all in one trip. Don’t quite feel like a guest. Then at the end you’re expected to bus your own table.

      And yes, they wanted a full 20% tip, probably even 25% if I remember right.

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      Wtf is the point of this. Even if they wanted to save on labor costs of wait staff and everything why not just use your own card instead of trading it for a temporary card.

      It’s like this pizza place I went to recently. They had a little arcade so I went to put some quarters in and realized I had to go buy tokens at a machine first. It wasn’t Dave and Busters or anything, just a hole in the wall with a few games in a corner. I didn’t buy any tokens. Same with laundromats that now want you to buy tokens ahead of time.

      There isn’t a single business anymore that isn’t trying to just blatantly scam you out of your money. They used to at least be more subtle about it.

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        it divorces the act of spending from actual money, so you spend more. like buying gems in a mobile game. also saves on credit card transaction fees.

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          it divorces the act of spending from actual money,

          That’s among the reasons why I carry cash for small purchases.

          It feels more real when I can see actual physical money going out of my wallet.

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          You’re comparing weeks of spending to a couple hours at a bar though, I’m not sure if that’s really comparable.

          There’s a couple other reasons that apply as well:

          Because they get charged less by the bank for lower quantity of bigger transactions, instead of high number of small transactions. Also allows for people who have cash but no card to use the system.

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        Because they get charged less by the bank for lower quantity of bigger transactions, instead of high number of small transactions. Also allows for people who have cash but no card to use the system.

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        They don’t want to handle coins essentially. Going to the bank to exchange coins for cash every day is a huge part of the labor cost, so they make you use tokens that not only allows them to get rid of that but also essentially charge you seignorage.

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    Tipping was always stupid from day 1. I’ve spent most of my life being told I’m a moron for being against tipping culture and instead wanting fair wages and clear prices. Suddenly in recent years people realize how stupid tipping is simply cause it went to its logical extreme. People are morons.

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      People are morons but if you’re from the states, which I’m guessing you are, there’s a far more densely concentrated amount of morons.

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        I used to think that way as well, but extensive international travel has shown me the error of my ways; turns out that morons are pretty evenly distributed throughout the world.

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          Fair enough, my extensive international travel cemented it honestly.

          There’s plenty of other horrible tourists, I’d say the Brits are the worst in terms of young kids getting drunk and buck wild. But I’ll never forget the guy from Illinois who had his concealed carry permit wrapped in gladwrap in his wallet in Thailand and he tried to fight me over his rights when I quizzed him on why you would ever bring your permit overseas as the mere question of why you’d bring the licence was enough to threaten his right to guns.

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        I don’t think people are getting stupider, I think they’re just more confident in their stupidity. People used to defer to experts when they didn’t know something, but now they believe their opinion is as valid as any.

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      If you are for fair wages and clear prices, that means you’re actively boycotting all restaurants right? You wouldn’t be a hypocrite to still patronize these establishments that exploit their workers and expect you to cover the difference right?

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        I generally do not go to these kinds of places. When I do, I still tip, but I don’t like it. But yes, I hardly ever partake in businesses that operate this way.

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      Every moron who doesn’t tip thinks this way. Nobody wants to tip, and hopefully someday it will be universally abolished, but until then, this is the way it is and people are just trying to supplement their minimum wages to make a livable income. So just tip them appropriately for the work they do for you already, you moron. I guarantee that as a non-tipper, you are on many service workers’ shit lists, so I guess if you’re not getting good service, it’s your own fault.

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        Tipping for a service is all well and good, but what about someone who is just running a register and the kiosk asks if you’d like to add a tip? Like restaurants when I am picking up an order. There was no service involved, yet I’m expected to tip the person who hands me the bag? I think not.

        Also the arbitrary way we as a society have determined who does and doesn’t deserve a tip. Hotel housekeeping? Customary to tip. Shuttle bus driver, not so much.

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          Why I always love to argue about this with people. It always devolves into “you tip for good service,” and nobody understands my suggestion that service should always be good regardless.

          So I always ask them, “why don’t you tip your surgeon then? What if they do a bad job? Shouldn’t you tip them to ensure they don’t do a bad job?” And I never get good responses. “Well, they already get paid well and they CAN’T do a bad job.” We arbitrarily tip some jobs and not others. And there are definitely low wage jobs out there which do far more important things to our everyday lives, but people don’t SEE it so they stupidly don’t make the connection and say “this doesn’t make sense.”

          People also love to argue that prices will go up without tipping since people would need to be paid more since they don’t get tips. Yet again, they are too stupid to realize their actual price includes the tips already. It’s not going to be dramatically more. It also sometimes reveals that people generally don’t give a shit about others, in that if we paid a little more so others can have livable wages, most won’t go for that in reality.

          These are probably the same morons who think they pay federal income taxes and talk about “muh tax dollars” and never understand their refund gave them all of it back plus some, equating to welfare.

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        FYI, I don’t go to places that expect tipping. But thanks for presuming I don’t tip at all.

        Also, as a previous tip-based service worker, I know all this already. But again, thanks for presuming only YOU know things.

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        Hurrdurr things are bad but I can’t fix them so I’ll blindly accept them. If you don’t, you’re a bad person.

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    I wanted to know if it’s ever appropriate to walk away and not leave a tip?

    “No,” Sokolosky said.

    She said people are trying to make a living.

    “I always feel grateful, frankly, that I can tip,” she said.

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      No, I think this goes to show that the whole idea that people will cry if prices are raised to increase wages is a lie. People who buy products and services want the people who are tasked with delivering those products and services to make a good living. They are willing to pay more in the form of tips; they will be willing to pay more in the form of prices. Just give people raises already ffs.

      (And that’s not to say that prices will actually increase all that much if wages increase because that’s also mostly a lie told to protect corporate profit margins.)

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        Prices would raise, because they always raise to however much people are willing to pay for it. As long as people are tipping, they’re voluntarily adding that instead of waiting for the market to correct for it. That said, you are also correct that prices are NOT the only place that businesses will go to protect their margin. If margins get too low to run a business due to labor, rents will have to decrease to keep businesses in the buildings. Similarly, if margins increase too much, landlords will increase the rent.

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        There’s a faulty assumption in here that I was to call attention to: it’s the it’s that capitalist companies are charging less than the market will bear.

        100% of the time, prices are as high as they can possibly be. There’s no situation where a company says, “we could charge them $5, but let’s charge them $4”.

        If we stopped tipping and people got raises, the balance would have to come from CEO salaries (etc) which is what they’re really saying when they say they can’t do it.

        That said, for situations where tipping has become kind of expected but not required (eg baristas, who are paid minimum wage, but not eg waitstaff who are paid less than minimum wage), the expectation that prices have to go up to account for raised wages will raise “what the market will bear.”

        Maybe not for deliveries? Since everyone already thinks delivery fees are tips? Idk.

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    I never tip anywhere I’m just picking up food and paying at the register. It annoys me as a customer and I wish they would quit asking.

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      I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again. Leaving tip at the counter or for take out food is just incomprehensible to me. It’s like tipping a grocery store clerk at check out when you are paying for your groceries. I bought this food already, what am I leaving a tip for?

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    I’ve stopped using tipped services entirely now. The only tipping I do is for a waiter at a sit down restaurant.

    The mini mart under my building asks me to tip when all I’ve done is bring what I want to a counter. It’s infuriating because there’s no reason for it, it’s literally just there to guilt people into an extra few bucks.

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      This is my test, essentially, too.

      To put more detail around my lines:

      • Order at counter and food brought to me may be 5-10% on the upper end

      • Order at table, food delivered to table - normal tipping rules

      • Everything else? Please stop asking and starting paying a living wage or as close as you can.

      If I’m going to tip someone for taking my order, then it’s either insulting to those who perform table service or the top tip % has to go up. I say people should get paid by their employer and let’s end this tip thing.

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      You should tip gig workers too. They aren’t getting even half of what you pay. Some rides/deliveries are literally 3 dollars without a tip.

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    Wow, this “etiquette expert” grift is more interesting than the article itself. https://www.valerieandcompany.com/

    Internationally recognized as a National News Contributor, Valerie is an expert in her field of leadership presence and personal branding. She is one of only 20 Master Brand Strategists worldwide and has received front-page press coverage in the Wall Street Journal as a pioneer in executive coaching.

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      How is this grift? These are all corporate words for “I train existing leaders”

      It’s very much a real job.

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        A job who’s qualifications comes from news media exposure and being

        one of only 20 Master Brand Strategists

        Is an absolute corporate grift.

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          Her job is literally to help other people get positive exposure lol

          These are real things that people do. She does what a publicist does, only for corporate people. As a CEOs job is literally to attract funding, I’m sure you can see how this is a relevant job.

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            It really is a recursive situation of uselessness. She goes onto news media to promote her own ability to make execs feel like she can help them promote their own ability. All we achieve is making corporate leaders feel entitled to their position and more money extracted from people actually creating value.

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              You can hate the system and still recognize that the system has parts.

              You don’t like that her job has value, and that’s fine -but it still has value.

              Were you not being literal? Did I just completely misunderstand your post?

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                I think you just have a structural/functional view of the world that is fundamentally incompatible with how I view it.

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                  Maybe you see the world on How it Should work, not How it Does work. Those two are not incompatible, unless you confuse one for the other.

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                We might be thinking of different meanings of the word value. If value means anything that is worth money, then yes she probably is creating value. If value means something that contributes to society and mankind then… Bullshit job.

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                You’re being a bit pedantic by correcting people on it. We get it’s a “real job”, we’re saying that it’s BULLSHIT that it’s a real job. It’s a bullshit job. She’s the expert of made up rules that she creates by enforcing and enforces by creating. She makes money, cool, it’s a “job” in that sense, but it’s a bullshit job.

                If someone paid me to shit on the sidewalk every day, would you correct people who said “That’s a bullshit job”? “Um it’s a real job”

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                  She’s the expert of made up rules that she creates by enforcing and enforces by creating

                  Our entire society functions via made up rules that don’t make sense and contradict themselves. Ask literally anyone you know on the Spectrum. As long as society exists roles like this will exist.

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        There’s no such thing as a “master brand strategist.” Look into David Graeber’s Bullshit Jobs theory. Hers is most likely a bullshit job.

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    I never tip these days. It’s a band-aid solution that needs to end.

    When tipping, either the customer is getting fucked or the employee; never the owner. I choose to fuckover the employee because they’d rather fuck me and lots of them support tipping culture saying “they make more in tips.”

    Well, good. You can “make more in tips” without me. I guess that way everyone literally wins.

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      While this is extreme, I understand why you would do this. I just call first and see if they require tip before I go. If they do, then I don’t go.

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      Haha I love getting help from working class waitstaff that the system has exempted from minimum wage, stiffing them, and then bragging about it online.

      Why? Because I’m an edgelord piece of shit.

      Yes, tipping culture is wrong, but the doesn’t make you some moral leader, or not a dick. You’re just a sad little person who gets off on being a douchebag.

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    Like with every single thing that humans try to do to help each other, corporations have figured out how to exploit it for themselves.

    We feel like tipping helps people because literally handing money to someone SHOULD help them. Except what actually happens is that corporations, with the full support of the government that they own, simply use that social convention to offset the wages that they have to pay their staff.

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      Reminder that tipping only exists because of racist and greedy motives, not because of people being nice. Sure, you could tip because you’re nice, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, but we were told to tip from the beginning to keep blacks underpaid in their shitty service industry roles. Tipping started at the top, not the bottom.

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    Pizza Hut box: The delivery fee is not a tip to the driver.

    Me: Then why TF am I paying it?

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      I can’t speak to Mega-Globo chains but

      The delivery fee is supposed to cover the barest of $2/Gal gas, and $.2/mi car wear n tear.

      Basically it meant if you didn’t make a single tip at all the entire night then you probably broke even on gas costs. That plus you $5-7/hr wages are you’re living on the Ritz.

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          I don’t deliver pizzas, but anytime I drive my own car for work I get reimbursed a standard rate set by the US federal government, updated each year. If a pizza place did that, then the delivery fee would cover that cost.

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            If the federal government is reimbursing the pizza hut delivery driver then the fee still isn’t going to that cost. The American taxpayer is covering it

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              The government doesn’t do the reimbursing, they just specify how much each mile is worth. I assume companies follow the government’s guidelines on that for tax reasons.

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          Not always, Pizza Hut and Dominos have designated vehicles even in remote areas.

          Saw one way upstate in NY, like, multilingual signage upstate.

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            Not how it is in my neck of the woods. It’s for sure the driver’s car at both of those.

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          I delivered pizza using my own car, and I was paid mileage. That’s partially what the delivery fee is supposed to be for.

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    How can the US actually end tipping culture? I cannot fathom a way forward that doesn’t fuck over a lot of people in the short-term. Ideas?

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        It’s the waiters who are pushing back on this. I know restaurant owners enjoy this situation, but even when they try to change it, waiters would require quite oversized paychecks to make up for this lack of tips. At a very nice restaurant near me, before covid, waiters typically were making $100k. This is not the norm for most restaurants, but even now I talk to waiters making $60-$70k. A lot of those tips are unreported so untaxed. This is unskilled labor (I’m not knocking it… I’ve been a waiter before and it’s tough work!), and if restaurants had to pay these wages I don’t know how high the food costs would have to be.

        If you set the minimum wage to, say, $20 per hour but no tips allowed, you would likely have a lot of waiters leave the profession.

        Though I guess others would take their place and, since that’s still a decent wage, things would level out eventually.

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          I don’t think any of this matters. It’s the customers that are not happy. Raise the prices of food to include the extra costs. Waiters in nice restaurants would obviously make more than minimum wage. Waiter in not so nice places probably as well. If waiters make more money because they’re avoiding taxes then that ends, sorry. I don’t think any one will argue that the only way to have restaurants is to let waiters avoid taxes.

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          If the employee is making that much then that amount is already added onto the price of the meal - whether it’s officially or unofficially. Setting a real wage would just ensure that people get a consistent wage.

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            Op mentioned this is currently untaxed. I can’t comment on where that’s valid as I’m not from the us, but the tax part of that going into the government coffins instead of the waiter’s pocket could make a large difference. Not a good reason not to do as I believe everyone should pay taxes, but that would explain while some waiters would be against it

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              I wonder if untaxed tips are still significant factor now that electronic payment is so popular.

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              I haven’t worked in a restaurant in a while but as I remember it: A waiter/waitress is expected to report tips at 8% of the value of the checks they serve - the government assumes they get tips up to that amount. So they have to report tips, but they try to stick juuuust over that 8%. If the customer puts the tip on the credit card, then it’s reported. if it’s a cash tip, it only gets reported if it’s needed to get up to that 8%. Everything else the IRS doesn’t hear about. Waitresses at my restaurant would claim their tips at the end of a shift so it was a daily calculation.

              That said, wait staff got $2.14/hr and the restaurant was responsible for making up the difference to minimum wage if there wasn’t enough business. That never happened. Also, this info is about 30 years old and in Florida, so your mileage may vary. Some wait staff make crazy tips (depending on venue) and if they have to claim it, they pay a little more in tax but if they lose tips altogether they lose most of their income.

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              Untaxed =/= taxfree. The waiters should report it as income, failure to do so is tax evasion.

              So if the system is beneficial to them thanks to opening easy avenues to fraud, then it should be addressed right away.

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        Makes sense. The issue is that many service workers are making well above minimum wage via tipping, and they’re supporting their families off it. I guess raise universal minimum wage alongside tipping ban?

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          This is a problem as well. I read at Casa Bonita they eliminated tipping and started paying the staff $30/h. And some of the staff are mad about it, which I kinda get but it’s a feast or famine type deal. Some days you really make a ton on tipping, and some days you get left a fake $100 from some evangelical asshole. I’d rather count on a guaranteed wage than a maybe. Full disclosure though, I’ve never worked in a tipping profession so I may be missing some things.

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          No, raise the wage and make tipping optional. Simply move from ‘tipping is part of their wage, they need it because they make below minimum wage’ to ‘tipping is a reward for good service’. You can leave it but they will not starve without it.

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        Why would it?

        Well the most obvious reason is that tipping culture is robbing workers who it’s supposed to help.

        In my state, “tipped” positions’ minimum wage is 2.12/hr. Despite the fact that tipping isn’t guaranteed or mandatory. There are other “tipped” positions than waiters. How often do you tip the car hop at sonic that brings you your drink? They often make less than minimum wage. The dude making your sandwich at subway? Yeah, they deduct that guy’s tips from his hourly.

        Tell me why we shouldn’t end a system that exploits the culture to get away with paying out poverty wages?

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          The biggest opponents of ending tipping are the bartenders and servers. There aren’t many other jobs where they can make hundreds of dollars in a few hours on a busy night, and they would not give up that even when offered $30 an hour

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            I don’t doubt that, and it would be fine if it were just servers. Now that tipping culture has spread, it’s actively hurting people who the population at large doesn’t feel like they should have to tip

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          Your understanding of minimum wage is incorrect - under the FLSA, if an employees tips do not bring their wages up to minimum, the employer must make up the difference. https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/state/minimum-wage/tipped/2020

          Still horseshit though. If you can’t pay employees a fair wage, you don’t deserve to be in business, and it shouldn’t be on the customer to subsidize your employees’ shitty pay rate.

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            I realize that. The idea is that these employees make minimum wage no matter what you tip them. The only tipped position that routinely breaks that is a restaurant server.

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    Tipping everything was starting long before covid. It was introduced with new interact devices. I first saw it at subways in like 2015

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    Well yeah. Every one with a card reader realized they could enable the prompt. Whether or not tips actually go to the workers.

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      I went to tip a local burrito place with my card a couple months ago, and the lady said don’t bother. She doesn’t get any credit card tips.

      Wage theft is huge.

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      If they don’t they open themselves up to a massive lawsuit since there’s a record of it, unlike cash tips which are often stolen by management

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        And yet wage theft remains the largest form of theft in America. Almost like the punishment isn’t a deterrent.