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Cake day: October 18th, 2023

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  • Sure, sometimes people leave ads open after the item is no longer available. But only asking if it’s available is still an obnoxious waste of time. The first message from a potential buyer should have something useful in it. Further contact info, meetup availability, clarifying questions, an offer if the price isn’t firm, etc.

    Maybe lead with, “If this is still available, blah blah blah” if it makes the buyer feel better. The buyer probably has all that in mind when they decide to contact the seller anyway, so they can take 30 seconds to include it in the first message and actually get the process moving instead of holding it up for a one-word reply from the seller.

    If you buy enough items that stale ads are actually taking up a meaningful amount of your time, then copy-paste as needed.








  • I think it’s because people think giving pure cash is thoughtless and basic.

    This idea needs to die. I’d rather have $10 cash that I can stash away to save up for something that I actually want than a $25 gift card that locks me in to a single store.

    I’m at a stage in my life where I can generally buy little things when I want to. But my wife and I don’t make enough to regularly drop hundreds or thousands of dollars on non-essentials, and my other family members can’t do more than $25 or maybe $50 for birthdays or Christmas.

    It took me years to convince my parents and wife to just give me cash. When I finally did, it enabled me to save up for a $1k guitar over several years.

    I’d much rather have one awesome gift every 5 years than a steady stream of $35 gift certificates to various stores and restaurants.

    Not giving someone what they’re actually asking for is far less thoughtful than cash.



  • Cognitively and logically, I understand.

    But emotionally, it’s just another one of those little reminders of the passage of time that hits unexpectedly hard.

    I think it’s because my only memories of it are from when I was young. Quake 3 Arena was released almost a year before the PS2, but I’ve never really stopped playing it, and still sometimes get in-person LAN parties together to play it. It feels just as old as I am, and I associate it with good memories from every age.

    But I haven’t touched or even thought about a PS2 in decades. So when it suddenly jumps to the front of my mind, only old memories come with it. Then you start to think about the friends you played it with, and everything that’s happened to you all between them and now. Kids, marriages, divorces, houses, bankruptcies, jobs earned and lost, deaths, etc… Some are doing great, some not so great, but most you just don’t know because you’ve lost contact.

    So yeah, it seems silly on its face, but sometimes random thing just pull you into the past unexpectedly, putting the present and the path between them both in stark contrast. This just happened to be one for me this time.