Hello I’m 21/male and I’m very sensitive and I get easily hurt by mean people.

I don’t understand why there are so many mean people everywhere in both the real world (like my parents etc.) and online like Reddit/Lemmy.

All I do is exist and ask genuine questions but people criticize the way I talk, live and call me a troll, stupid etc. People online even told me they would be happy if I kill myself.

I fundamentally don’t understand why people are so evil in the first place? Why would they wanna hurt anyone? I could never. If I ever accidentally hurt someone in the slightest I would feel so bad/miserable and do my best to apologize and make it right.

These experiences are the reason why I have fundamental mistrust against humanity and have paranoia towards people.

Especially when I’m interested in another country/culture and hope people might be better there it’s a big disappointment when they’re mean and cruel towards me online cause it makes me feel like many people in that country might be like this too.

It makes me very depressed and disappointed. It really takes away the last hope I have in life.

Is there any country or place where people might be less mean/direct?

      • LumpyPancakes@lemm.eeEnglish
        5·
        16 hours ago

        G’day from Australia :)

        Social media trends to be a harsh place. Getting down voted and argued with can be quite jarring and distressing - especially when you’re coming from a position of honest curiosity and are met with hostility. The written word can amplify this as text lacks some of the nuance that a real conversation has.

        Not everyone is a bad person. You might need a break from social media now and then to reset.

        You might also be an HSP like me - see https://youtu.be/TPR1P_D8zjY - gives us some unique challenges.

        I’m not sure which is the ‘nicest’ country. I’ve asked myself this a few times. So far New Zealand seems to be the winner, but that’s based on one visit only.

        • Lost_Person@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
          4·
          16 hours ago

          Omg this is exactly me! I never heard of HSP before but everything they say in the video fits perfectly and it also explains many things of my life. Thank you so much!

          • Mooseford@lemmy.todayEnglish
            3·
            15 hours ago

            Might be autism as well, there are many people with ASD who spend years thinking they are HSP or bipolar.

            • Lost_Person@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
              2·
              3 hours ago

              Just looked into autism and those symptoms seem quite the opposite of how I experience myself but of course I’m not an expert and I could be wrong here.