Hello I’m 21/male and I’m very sensitive and I get easily hurt by mean people.

I don’t understand why there are so many mean people everywhere in both the real world (like my parents etc.) and online like Reddit/Lemmy.

All I do is exist and ask genuine questions but people criticize the way I talk, live and call me a troll, stupid etc. People online even told me they would be happy if I kill myself.

I fundamentally don’t understand why people are so evil in the first place? Why would they wanna hurt anyone? I could never. If I ever accidentally hurt someone in the slightest I would feel so bad/miserable and do my best to apologize and make it right.

These experiences are the reason why I have fundamental mistrust against humanity and have paranoia towards people.

Especially when I’m interested in another country/culture and hope people might be better there it’s a big disappointment when they’re mean and cruel towards me online cause it makes me feel like many people in that country might be like this too.

It makes me very depressed and disappointed. It really takes away the last hope I have in life.

Is there any country or place where people might be less mean/direct?

  • LumpyPancakes@lemm.eeEnglish
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    23 hours ago

    G’day from Australia :)

    Social media trends to be a harsh place. Getting down voted and argued with can be quite jarring and distressing - especially when you’re coming from a position of honest curiosity and are met with hostility. The written word can amplify this as text lacks some of the nuance that a real conversation has.

    Not everyone is a bad person. You might need a break from social media now and then to reset.

    You might also be an HSP like me - see https://youtu.be/TPR1P_D8zjY - gives us some unique challenges.

    I’m not sure which is the ‘nicest’ country. I’ve asked myself this a few times. So far New Zealand seems to be the winner, but that’s based on one visit only.

    • Wolf314159@startrek.websiteEnglish
      1·
      4 hours ago

      There’s a lot there in that video that I think will resonate with most people, myself included, but I nearly did not get past the philosophical problem of the speaker’s claims that HSPs somehow feel things deeper than others. As if people that are better equipped or trained to manage their emotions are somehow experiencing emotions on a shallower level. That line of logic reminds me way too much of the way colonizers would dehumanize indigenous peoples by claiming that the culture and language of those indigenous peoples were somehow less developed because of a difference in technological development. I know that they are very different situations. I’m just trying to draw abstract parallels to show why I find the language they used offensive.

      Either way, that video left me wondering. Which would be more emotionally exhausting, being an HSP or accommodating one on a regular basis?

    • Lost_Person@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      4·
      23 hours ago

      Omg this is exactly me! I never heard of HSP before but everything they say in the video fits perfectly and it also explains many things of my life. Thank you so much!