I am being heavy handed with my wording for the sake of metaphor.
You as a person need to tame another in order to cohabit the same space, while at the same time taming yourself. You will sacrifice for them and they you. You hope to give them tenfold what they have you, in hopes they know how loved and cherished they are. You must communicate, lose, and evolve in order to win a together that is more fruitful.
It is the same as loving your mother, if not - I am sorry she did not capture your heart. That is not a slight on you, just a sad reality that can exist and I am fortunate in this regard. My siblings were not.
I speak of love, not men or women. It is a concept beyond gender and most humans.
I do get what you’re saying. I am 17 years into that kind of relationship. But the domestication is voluntary, and capture is something others DO want to do. Capture isn’t the goal, but as you said, a mutual choice to be domesticated because of wanting to be closer to someone. To create the third entity, the bond.
That being said, my mother was an emotionally and physically abusive carer.
Bladerunner “let me tell you about my mother” gif.
I am being heavy handed with my wording for the sake of metaphor.
You as a person need to tame another in order to cohabit the same space, while at the same time taming yourself. You will sacrifice for them and they you. You hope to give them tenfold what they have you, in hopes they know how loved and cherished they are. You must communicate, lose, and evolve in order to win a together that is more fruitful.
It is the same as loving your mother, if not - I am sorry she did not capture your heart. That is not a slight on you, just a sad reality that can exist and I am fortunate in this regard. My siblings were not.
I speak of love, not men or women. It is a concept beyond gender and most humans.
Leave my mother out of this.
I do get what you’re saying. I am 17 years into that kind of relationship. But the domestication is voluntary, and capture is something others DO want to do. Capture isn’t the goal, but as you said, a mutual choice to be domesticated because of wanting to be closer to someone. To create the third entity, the bond.
That being said, my mother was an emotionally and physically abusive carer.
Bladerunner “let me tell you about my mother” gif.