Most friendships in reality are built on convenience, routine, or proximity, not some deep meaningful bond. Once the shared environment disappears, so does the relationship. A big part of what people call “friendship” is just structured social habit — people to talk to so life feels less empty or repetitive. In that sense, having friends isn’t automatically valuable. It depends entirely on whether the connection actually adds anything to your life or just fills silence. Some people are better off alone than surrounded by low-quality connections they feel obligated to maintain.
To me it seems you’re implying that temporary and conditional equals to shallow and meaningless. I do not think that is the case. In the end human life is temporary, so absolutely all relationships will end one way or another, that is an inescapable fact. It doesn’t make them automatically lack depth and meaning. They can still give you experiences of genuine connection, exchange of ideas and chances for reflection.
Having people to talk to so life feels less empty or repetitive, to me, is worth the investment it takes to maintain some friendships/relationships. Filling the silence can sometimes be enough. And I like the silence. Just not all the time.
Some people have chosen a different path and I’m sure that hermit life can actually be deeply fulfilling and meaningful. However such people don’t usually go around social media looking to contact other people, so I doubt you are such a person, but obviously I don’t know.
I think you’re mistaking peers for friends, which are very similar in school and university, but once you’re out of those heavily structured environments making friends and maintaining friendships isn’t just automatic - it requires taking purposeful actions to spend time with them. If you don’t have a desire to spend time your free time with them they’re not friends, they’re just people you know.
The real hot take is op just doesn’t have any real friends
Eh, yes and no.
A lot of friendships do start out based on proximity, convenience, etc but can grow into something deeper and lasting. Like, many of my friends in school growing up all had last names near mine in the alphabet. Two of those I still hang out with decades later.
When you leave college and go into the real world on your own, you find out which ones were built on convenience and which were lasting. I couldn’t tell you how many “friends” I had in college, but since graduating, I probably only keep in touch with about 10 of them regularly.
Reminds me of the saying “Relatives are who you were born into, family is who you choose”.
there was a similar post in like the past month.
Is that a Hot Take?
I thought everyone knew that. It’s pretty obvious.
Is it even an opinion? Seems as much a fact as gravity.One of the realities of being an adult is that having non-work non-school friends now requires you to put in the effort of making plans and arrangements to do stuff. Its absolutely vital to have those relationships through your adult hood, and yea that won’t just happen without you putting in the effort to maintain your friendships. But the fact is it remains absolutely vital to your health and happiness. If most of your relationships are built on convenience and circumstance, reflect on what you can do to change that.
Maybe vital for the majority
I sort of agree with the first half of your opinion, just not that it’s not valuable or necessary. You don’t need to be soulmates to enjoy a meaningful friendship with someone, I’m a picky introvert and I recon I could be friends with like 10-15% of the population. And its absolutely better than being alone, loneliness sucks.
I envy those who’re perfectly content being alone 😔
Dont remember the movie or if it was a comedian but it went something like 100% of best men at weddings are only there because their locker and the grooms locker were next to each other in school. Lol
