It’s often hard for neurotypical people to understand this, which I get. But it really can be traumatic

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    Missed jokes and references? That is something you need to mention alongside the other issues?

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      Yes, people can be offended or get the wrong idea from a misunderstood joke or a person can feel left out if they don’t get a reference. Humor can be a big part of building connection and repiore with people.

      Replaying and perseverating on interactions can be a big problem too.

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        I meant this more like not telling jokes if they are such an issue. Or only with specific people.

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          That just sounds like masking with extra steps to be honest. Also, removing humor from every day actions sounds dismal. Just because we’re autistic doesn’t mean we don’t like to laugh.

          This is only in my experience, and I can only speak as to what works for me and my Autism/ADHD. Medication and cognitive behavior therapy helped me keep my humor and learn to not care if people don’t like my joke or reference. To wait for them to ask for clarification, and only give clarification if they ask. I’m lucky though as my brand of humor isn’t really considered to be offensive as I like to “punch up” as it were. Also, most of my references are from the most basic bitch shows like The Simpsons so YYMV.