I think the last part of your sentence is a little one-sided. It takes two to form a relationship and women can be just as non accepting of non traditional relationships as men.
That’s true, but the person perceived to be “in power” in the relationship (what was called traditionally the breadwinner) is less likely to complain about the situation. I don’t think many working people, women or otherwise, think “I wish I could work at home tidying up the house for no salary and have no income of my own!”
I agree with your point still - once children are in the equation some women might shift towards the traditional view if that means they’d get to stay at home spending time with them.
think “I wish I could work at home tidying up the house for no salary and have no income of my own!”
No, they think that “since I’m a higher social class, I will not date anyone without a doctorate”. Women still largely tend to seek men earning more than them due to existing or perceived pressures, it’s just that since they now earn more, everyone is a bit lonelier.
To be clear, I’m not saying that women should go back to earning less, I’m saying that people should adapt and be happier.
I don’t think anyone wants to be entirely dependent on someone else’s income, but I do think women are more likely to complain if they’re the breadwinner than men are, because of the same traditionel view. You’ll rarely hear a guy say “we’ve grown apart” if his wife works a dead end job or has a lower education.
“I wish I could work at home tidying up the house for no salary and have no income of my own!”
As a fun aside: both my wife and I would both love to do this! Unfortunately it’s just too tough financially in the modern world, so it’s never a really serious discussion.
Plus we would have to flip a coin or something to decide who has to be the breadwinner.
We don’t really have a relationship that revolves around power-roles though, so it’s a bit of a different discussion.
I think the last part of your sentence is a little one-sided. It takes two to form a relationship and women can be just as non accepting of non traditional relationships as men.
I guess that’s fair
That’s true, but the person perceived to be “in power” in the relationship (what was called traditionally the breadwinner) is less likely to complain about the situation. I don’t think many working people, women or otherwise, think “I wish I could work at home tidying up the house for no salary and have no income of my own!”
I agree with your point still - once children are in the equation some women might shift towards the traditional view if that means they’d get to stay at home spending time with them.
No, they think that “since I’m a higher social class, I will not date anyone without a doctorate”. Women still largely tend to seek men earning more than them due to existing or perceived pressures, it’s just that since they now earn more, everyone is a bit lonelier.
To be clear, I’m not saying that women should go back to earning less, I’m saying that people should adapt and be happier.
I don’t think anyone wants to be entirely dependent on someone else’s income, but I do think women are more likely to complain if they’re the breadwinner than men are, because of the same traditionel view. You’ll rarely hear a guy say “we’ve grown apart” if his wife works a dead end job or has a lower education.
As a fun aside: both my wife and I would both love to do this! Unfortunately it’s just too tough financially in the modern world, so it’s never a really serious discussion.
Plus we would have to flip a coin or something to decide who has to be the breadwinner.
We don’t really have a relationship that revolves around power-roles though, so it’s a bit of a different discussion.
Yes, women can also suffer from toxic masculinity.