I’m in my early 30’s and I’ve literally always been curious about this. I’ve never in my life had the ability to feel sexual pleasure. I’ve never been on any meds or had any sort of traumatic experiences…it’s just the way I’ve always been even if I try. I’m old enough to say that I’m way beyond simply being a “late bloomer”. It’s just something I’ll never experience.
But it often feels like I’m missing a minor sense like taste or smell or something. Everyone has always raved about the taste of dessert, but I’ve never been able to understand or experience it. Can you describe it in detail it for me? Not just the mental part, but the physical part as well?
Thank you.
Sincerely, An Outsider
Wanna trade places?
I think I can best break up my experience into three bits, each with their own (possibly odd) comparable sensations.
To me, this feels very similar to when I want to eat. Not hunger, but when I am craving candy, chocolate or caffeine.
The closest I can think of is the sensation of someone running their fingers trough my hair. Perhaps not your thing, but getting my hair washed at the barbershop is always great.
3.1 Building up
Have you ever had “runners high” or that weird sensation where the pain of lifting weights actually starts feeling good the more it hurts? In that same way, it feels like I’m pushing for a limit.
Similar to a workout, it can also just be uncomfortable sometimes. Why? Human bodies are just weird.
3.2 Orgasm
Pictures this, you’re out and suddenly realise you left your phone at the coffee shop. This spike of fear running trough your chest, that has a slight sting to it. That same sensation, but instead of fear it’s closer to the feeling of biting into a juicy hamburger after not eating all day.
The train is at my stop, I gotta get out and cycle to work. Perfect timing.
You found some great words.
And a typo :p
Thank you!