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Cake day: June 22nd, 2023

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  • First thing to realise is that people only repair dissonance alone and in private. As you say, debates and arguments don’t help.

    I just try to engage on the positive topics and not engage on the negative ones. I’m honest about why I think what I think, but I don’t try to convince anyone. I say when I don’t know something. I don’t make shit up that I can be proved wrong about, even if that means letting something go unchallenged.

    You won’t convince people that something they see as a problem isn’t a problem, but what you might be able to do is get people to look at alternative solutions. People don’t want to be brutal and uncaring, but they that can get there when it’s their last option.

    Then occasionally you get a “something you said stuck with me” several days later, or maybe you don’t but something did stick with them. They incorporate the idea Into their thinking and start slowly shifting.