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  • shevek@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.world•Do it for fun
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    2 months ago

    I will second this. After college I realized I needed to expand my social circle. I agonized for weeks about even asking to join a few local Meetup groups. Eventually I did, and I convinced myself to go to a few events. I started framing social outings as exercise. It wasn’t always fun, but I usually felt good about making myself go.

    I still get anxious about social stuff. I still loath job interviews. I don’t like packed bars or events with thousands of people, but I can handle them better now. I can now give myself permission to fuck up a bit.

    "Was that social encounter my best work? No.

    Was I actually a jerk and everyone hates me now? Also no.

    Cool then. A ‘C+’ is still passing!"

    “What’s the worse that can happen (socially)?” is now a helpful question. “What if strangers think I’m weird?” IDK, then they do. That’s their problem. And if they remain strangers then I probably won’t need to deal with them again. If they think I’m weird and they still invite me back then at least my weirdness was within acceptable limits. And that’s how I met my wife :)

  • shevek@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•How do you guys fill up the yearning of your soul?
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    4 months ago

    Than you for the thoughtful reply.

    I think I’m passionate about helping people use technology effectively. Recently (years) it’s been difficult to find specific software interesting. But I will jump at a request to help a friend with their computer.

    I’ve got a home server but it’s mostly just for Jellyfin, and it’s just in Docker because i’m lazy 😅.

    Kubernetes is neat, but most companies that use it are large corporations. It’s been difficult to find a place where I can use my powers for good. I just need a six figure job where I help old ladies use e-mail.