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Cake day: October 23rd, 2024
  • nimble@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•how can I stop spiralling about my breakup?English
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    5 days ago

    Why didn’t he fight for me and his relationship

    Instead of asking yourself why he didn’t fight for you and your relationship, tell yourself that you are worth more than that. I know it’s easier said than done but the idea is to have some self worth and to know your worth. Don’t let people walk over you, and that also means don’t give a get out of jail free card for any unknown thing he may have done. That is belittling to yourself and you’re worth more than that. He made a choice, and if he doesn’t want to fight for you then don’t fight for him.

    Beyond that, find a new hobby or interest and dive into that. Bonus points if it is some kind of group where you meet new people. Find ways to be happy with yourself before the next relationship.

    Best of luck. And I’ll add to the choir that time does help. It may feel like you’re drowning now but everything will be ok and work out for the best.

  • nimble@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•*Permanently Deleted*English
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    10 days ago

    I grew up house poor, and one of our closest family friends was very wealthy. I never quite got a gift that expensive but it did happen. Frequently got gifts that were $200 or more which is more than we could’ve returned. One year i got a gaming console and a bunch of games. That was my first console at a time my dad was unemployed for over a year.

    If it bothered my parents, they never said anything. I do think if i had to return some of those gifts i would’ve been resentful. Not all people give gifts and expect the same monetary value in return. In fact that is part of the point for them because it is a gift that someone wouldn’t have gotten otherwise. I try to do gifts like that too except I’m not rich so i try to guess what something they need but don’t know about. Both can serve the same purpose of getting a gift that they wouldn’t have gotten themselves by removing a barrier (cost in one case, research on the other).

    You have already asked the parents, the parents are cool with it, sons friend is cool with it, and your son is cool with it. I think you should be cool with it too. I do think this will make giving gifts to this friend difficult, so you’ll need to have your son lean in that second category. Or if sons friend is self aware about money he won’t be asking for $1k+ gifts from friends

  • nimble@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•When will you "quit" the internet?English
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    22 days ago

    I think this is a very doom and gloom way of thinking about it. If a particular place becomes too shit then I’ll quit going to that place. But quit the internet altogether? Doubtful. People are already putting ai free disclaimers on their sites and i expect that to continue. Perhaps there will even be a network of verified ai free sites.

    Will things continue to get bad? Sure. But the fact that you are even asking this suggests that there are other people out there that want to see things differently.