I’m happy you found your way and again, don’t use labels if you don’t want to. Start building the world you wish for, by all means.

You keep missing or ignoring the point that your experience is yours alone, other people find comfort, identity, community and understanding in their labels and that’s their right.

Labels are a tool, how they are used depends on the person but they don’t intrinsically imply either discrimination or lack of compassion. Be compassionate, we agree that’s the way, but as far as I’m concerned that includes letting people be with their labels when they want to, as long as they’re not being dicks about it.

I think we agree on the main point of wanting a more inclusive society, one that hopefully doesn’t need labels, eventually, but it doesn’t look likely it will happen soon, and as long as we live in this one each of us copes the way we can.

Happy holidays friend

Everything is used to divide, someone autistic will behave in ways that “other” him regardless of labels, and people who want to hate are going to keep hating.

You don’t need them, don’t use them, but they absolutely are helpful for many people. We are nowhere near a society inclusive enough to make labels obsolete.

Beside, dealing with people’s attitude isn’t the only issue. Neurodivergent people will compare themselves to others on their own, and will struggle with their self image and self-esteem. A diagnosis will help with understanding themselves and finding better strategies much quicker.

I think they are referring to this.

As in, it’s not that they want, they might have to.

Hard agree there

I’m fine with getting wrinkles and I still keep my skincare going. When I don’t, my skin gets very dry and fills with pimples.

There’s a middle ground here.

I seem to remember a similar blunder as well, maybe it was DeSantis?

I don’t mean to intrude or push in any way, but your story sounds familiar and I found Running on empty to be an interesting read, if you ever feel inclined.

Good luck.

They’re not talking about texting apps, it’s keyboards and speech to text engines that often have a profanity filter, which usually is on by default.

I disable it on everything every time I change phones or format, but not everybody tinkers with settings.

You probably default to a keyboard without profanity filter.

It takes 10 minutes for you. I know people who struggle to understand that the browser isn’t google isn’t the internet, try having them install a new OS. They don’t follow the guides, because they don’t even understand what they should look for.
Some understand enough but like the convenience, and again that’s fair.

Bedsides, gaming distros aren’t the mess you say they are, nor are they so much more niche than any other major distro.
Usually they just work, when they don’t you look for fixes in the underlying distro community.

You are gatekeeping, and you are condescendingly deciding the best path for everyone else. I get that you honestly think it would be better, still people are different, what’s best for you doesn’t need to be the best for everyone else.

They don’t make gaming better, they make it easier for people who want to switch to have a functioning system, and there’s no price tag at all. Some will learn from there, some will just keep taking the easy way and that’s fine too.

It’s gatekeeping because without them only people willing and able to get technical get access to Linux. Would it be better if everybody learned? Of course. It’s not going to happen though, let others have a way in.

Everything works, so keep gatekeeping if it makes you feel better

If gaming is a priority, Garuda is a nice one to avoid as well

I like the fossify forks much better than the simple tools, I used to only use the gallery (and even for that I switched to Aves) now I have many of them as default. Dialer is nice, though the integration could flow better.

It sounds like that those therapy groups suck, honestly.

I’ve never tried groups, but I found a really amazing therapist so they exist, hope you find one who helps you.

Before that stroke of luck, I found a few books that helped me a lot with self sabotaging and other issues. If you’re interested, I could share.

Best of luck out there.

Have you tried the fossify dialer?

Their whole set of apps is nice.

How are they choosing the bear? Both of those are actively hostile towards women, they don’t just “go their own way” to chill with the bear

They seem to have banned it

If there was a choice to make, I would give up smartphones entirely without a thought

If you like arch based, may I suggest you try Garuda?

It’s a gaming distro, which I don’t know if you care about, but it’s very stable, should work with NVidia and has many quality of life features.

I think you can notice that I do actually slightly obsess about knowing myself too lol. How else I am to move forward if not by learning what makes me tick, eh? ^^

Preach, friend.

I think I can start to see a picture here.

Your direct environment may not have been hateful, but from your description the entire cultural setting, from language to customs, implanted some bias toward what is right and acceptable, or natural. It’s a strong influence, and it frames the entire reality unless one goes out of their way to challenge it, as you did. Kudos for that.

I agree that rationally nothing is confusing, but if you grow up with a substructure that implies things should be a specific way, your emotions will follow that framework.

I see that in my country as well, and in myself still sometimes, as much as I try to counter it.

I agree that meeting and getting to know a trans person would probably help in that, especially since consciously you already know how things work. It may be difficult for the trans person though, even if you don’t intend it to be. I’m sure you already know.

Thank you for your answer, and good luck in your slight obsession :)