I admit, my reply does not truly fit here but I think this is the best place (in the current state of this topic) to make a point I think is important and difficult to navigate

I do think individuals state of mind, intentions and actions are the way to bring about change but I also think it’s important to not fall into consumerism-patterns.

Like how recycling or buying an electric car is pushed as a solution for climate change when what’s needed is global cooperation and policy change wrt resource management.

The positive individual actions we can take do make our own lives and the lives of the people around us better and we get a stronger, more resilient local community.

By building that strong community we do get a platform to launch ourselves towards the greater society we live in to demand change either by reform or revolution (depending in what’s possible and/or most adequate).

See for example this Community building post in the Betterment and praxis community.

I’ve been thinking a lot about dignity lately. I don’t think I can define dignity well at all but I’m still pretty sure it has something to do with world peace[1] and a bright future for humankind.

As for how to do it, I don’t know, sry.

[1] where peace is not the same as the absence of military conflict but more like peaceful coexistence and cooperation.

I’m in favour of https://freesewing.org/ as part of a future rabbit hole for sewing clothes as the whole process to take all the measures and reading the rest of the material is really good info and provided me with an understanding I didn’t have before.

Also the license!

Hello,

Since I decided to get involved in your life I would like to ask how you’re doing and if there is anything related to this topic you’d like to continue talking about (either here or in private - I assume there are some kind of PMs on beehaw).

So, here we go…

My short list of things that seem to have turned things around for me:

• Finding 1 thing to have as a foundation for every day. 1 habit to get going. For me it works like a very basic routine (that I can anchor other stuff on) and also thermometer for how I’m doing. Somehow I decided to teach myself to make my bed every day. Roughly 6 years in I still have to think about doing it almost every time. And if I realise around noon that I haven’t made my bed it makes me realise that I’m having, at least, a bad day!
• Caring for something that is alive. I stumbled onto a cheatcode: I became a parent. But what really made the biggest difference was being able to keep houseplants alive! A child is somehow too obvious. I guess pets fill the same place. Or a neighbour that needs stuff from the store, whatever, just something that is alive that you care for in some way.
• This self-compassion workbook is what finally tipped the scale for me. While it seems to be easy for me to fall into depression at any point in my life, being aware of the idea of self-compassion makes it solo much easier to climb out.
• Going and moving around outside as often as possible. Walking, biking, swimming, skipping.
• Intermittent fasting has helped me a lot (I do the “easiest” 16/8), not to loose weight or whatever health benefits people ascribe to it, but to notice time and to make it harder to keep my food addictions going as hard (like stuffing myself at night after a whole day of not being able to get up from the sofa to eat).

And by “turned things around” I mean that I’ve managed to raise the floor of my personal hole enough so that my every day life actually kind of works. My economy is not wrecked. I have friends that call/text me to socialise and not only to keep tabs on me or check that I’m still around. I’m making plans for the future-future (so like 1-3 years not only for today or this week), stuff like that.

I’m not “cured”, I still get depressed for months some times, but it’s months and not years. And I let myself be depressed, for whatever reason there is this time, rather than bash myself for being depressed.

Sorry, this turned out more bloggy and preachy than intended. I hope you find something useful anyway :)

Since you have a good sense of “not this” I’m inclined to throw some shit at you and maybe something might stick and work out well to function as a a rebar net to get that concrete floor started so you don’t have to start all the way down every fucking time.

Before I do though I wonder if you’d like to get a small list of stuffs to check out? <– this is the actual question!

Well, I’d say that “not this” is quite useful and also hopeful.

From personal experience I think the biggest holes I’ve climbed out of didn’t even give that much direction. Knowing and/or wanting anything (even if it’s “not this”) is a decent start.

If you keep trying to find ways to express yourself I think that you can slowly start to raise the floor of whatever hole you’re in.

Thanks, this looks promising, I’ll investigate.

But also thanks for giving me the word “delayed” to use in my searches. Sometimes it’s hard to remember good synonyms.

Thanks, but not really as the “time capsule” feature would be lost since the email would be sitting in my future-/scheduled-folder.

But in the end that might be what I end up doing if I can’t find a suitable service.

I think there are a few of those, but as with everything targeted to scared relatives/caretakers it is quite expensive and hard to tell how it will age.

Nope, that is a good point.

I think I wrote my original message in a slightly distressed state after a quite bad event where she needed to get in contact with anybody and couldn’t.

After some thinking and time away from that scary incident it is quite clear that this mostly is a XY situation (as someone thought) and just getting her a bracelet for her alarm is probably as big a technological fix there can be.

Thanks, this looks like a superfun little gadget.

Unfortunately it lacks any kind of sound output[1] so it doesn’t cut it for my intended use.

[1] https://wiki.pine64.org/wiki/PineTime_FAQ#Does_PineTime_have_an_audible_beeper_or_speaker?

Thank you, it is evident that I’m having trouble to define my needs and wants in this domain. I’m learning a lot.

Your idea is rather opposite of what I’m looking for and I apologize for not being clear enough.

It is my understanding that many of these devices are health focused but I’m not looking health stuff unless it can be relayed to and used by her professional caregivers.

I’m looking for a wearable basic phone to receive and make calls.

Thanks!

Yes, for sure, it’s a little bit of both.

I will try to configure DND mode for her, but I’m not sure it will be enough, but it is worth a try.

The other problem about carrying it around is more difficult. She doesn’t manage to carry her alarm around using a lanyard (it will be changed to a bracelet, this change is what triggered the idea to get her a wrist-phone too), so I can’t imagine she will carry around her phone either. Maybe with a nice bag? Worth looking into.

Anyway, thanks for the DND suggestion, I will start with that.