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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • The loyalty thing is what kept me.

    I was wary of another gaming platform, there were so many and they all seemed the same, I never liked one over the other - they were just means to an end.

    A few years back I really wanted to play RDR2 with my friends. It was expensive and I never pre-order, but as soon as it came out on (a small) sale I bought it for all 4 of us.

    It was a lot of money for me, but I really wanted the story to play with everyone.

    All was well at first, until we had each completed the tutorial and met up in open world. That’s when we learned that the game was based on GTA and the devs do not care about hackers.

    We had one fucking with us for over an hour, teleporting us into the air and dropping us, setting us randomly on fire, spawning space ships and so on.

    I begged in voice for them to just leave us be, to no avail.

    We are all older, we rarely have time to play together. I was crushed.

    I was an hour over the return time on Steam, one of the other friends took a bit longer exploring and was even more than that.

    I contacted steam anyway and tried to get a refund, and they granted it for all of us.

    Later I learned this was a thing in RDR2 and there was now the ability to create private lobbies, but I just can’t make myself try it and give Rockstar any money.

    Steam however, won a lifelong fan. They didn’t have to honour the refund, and they don’t have to provide personal support that offers more than just the canned responses, but they do.

    I hope Gabe lives forever, or finds another like him to carry the torch after he’s gone.



  • I live in Australia where the temperatures get insane and destroy most electronics left in cars.

    I have a Viofo A229 PRO 3CH, it has a module that faces forward, and a separate camera that gives a view of the inside of my car as well as some of the outside sides, and a third camera on a long line that is mounted on my rear window that has a view of the rear.

    The images are clear, I can read licence plates easily day and night, and after being in two accidents it gives me peace of mind that I am protected in court if someone hits me again.


  • ^ This!

    I learned the retinol lesson the hard way. I used to use retin-a daily, and wasn’t careful about getting it near my eyes because I wasn’t sensitive to it.

    I now have chronic dry eye, this eventually got so bad I couldn’t see, and had to go get ipl treatments once a month, have the meibomian glands expressed, and have punctal plugs placed every month, then every few months. (don’t google any of that)

    After it got “better” I only have to do this stuff every 6 months…

    It’s expensive.

    Stay safe kids, never put a retinol near your eyes.



  • I was a stay at home mom/wife at various times in my 10 year marriage. I hate the term tradwife, but I guess I fit the picture.

    If I wasn’t working, the house was my job. I did all the shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry. I made an effort to freshen up before he got home from work.

    We found that when I was a housewife we actually had more time together, instead of trying to smash out laundry and un-fuck the house on weekends, it was all done, meaning we could just hang out when he was off work.

    I do enjoy my work so for now I keep doing it part time, but I don’t think being in a marriage that has traditional roles is all that polarising.




  • I am the wife of a mechanical engineer, who’s brothers are mechanical and electrical engineers, who’s parents are electrical engineers, who’s best friends are aerospace engineers.

    Basically I married into a family of robots, and I agree with this commenter here.

    This is the crux of why senior engineers struggle to talk about work I think, and I find the best way for me to get them talking, is to try to learn something small about their work, enough that I can ask intelligent questions, and then listen carefully to the replies.

    After a while they open up and I get to listen to the best rants about “special metals” or “systems architecture” or “braking systems in the railway”. It’s awesome.

    It’s how I connect with my husband.

    The other wives stand in a circle and roll their eyes about them talking about work because they don’t understand anything. “Oh there they go, talking about work again.”

    I decided I didn’t want that to be me, and told myself I would listen when they were talking, listen when my husband was working from home. Learn to ask intelligent questions about his work, and eventually, I knew what he was talking about.

    Enough that I now freelance in condition monitoring, giving me yet another way to connect with him.

    Ask intelligent questions, get excited about the replies, encourage them so they know you won’t be insulted when they assume you don’t know about <speciality subject> and you will have them opening up in no time.



  • This is correct, I use this method a lot in my work with the disabled. Often with clients that struggle with mental health, it’s important to redirect negative thoughts and feelings, but you have to do this without jumping to condescending or infantilising language.

    The easiest way is to empathize with <negative thought or feeling> acknowledging it as worthy of the space it’s taking up and offering up something related that I might worry about. Then redirect with a similar subject, but framed in a way that gives more power over it. Maybe a news article that pointed out how <related thing> is being solved by someone, or overcome, or even simply made fun of.

    If you can laugh at something for being ridiculous it has less power.

    You don’t need to change their belief in <negative thought or feeling> you just need to redirect it and reframe it, they will then have a different mental relationship with it later, and over time change.