I’ve also found that the vegans I know in my personal life are mostly nonjudgmental. Militant veganism feels like a stereotype or an anomaly of online spaces. Get to know some vegans at work/school/mural aid groups/activist orgs and you’ll probably find some friends who don’t need you to be 100% vegan all the time. Personally, I allow myself to slip into a vegetarian diet on my birthday, my partner’s birthday, and our anniversary. I’ve never received criticism for this, but I’d understand if other vegans had a problem with it.
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