Honestly I disagree, it absolutely is not. If you don’t want to part with your money, don’t give it, but you are not paying for a service. You are are not entitled to what another person does with the money you give them. Do you want the company you work for to start telling you want yiu can do with the money they pay you? Or is it your money to do with what you want once it is given to you?
What is your justification for why they owe you an explanation?
I’m glad you are so morally just and a paragon of justice that you get to be judge of who is worthy of help. We definitely need more judgmental people in this world.
Have a awful rest of your life :)