For sure. But most people aren’t well known enough to have strangers murder them. If someone wanted to put a bomb in my house they could, I don’t have any security or cameras, I don’t even lock the door that often. But why would they care?

But yeah, it’s wouldn’t just be the rich, anyone famous enough to be known and awful (or just unlucky) enough to make someone genuinely wish them dead would be at risk. ‘ordinary’ people rarely have the power or influence to piss someone off enough to murder them. Although I’m sure the number of mysterious deaths of neighbours and exlovers etc would go up.

I bought foundry but never had time to get the hang of it, and in the end we preferred minimal vtt, just chat and a dice / auto bot. But maybe some day I’ll get into it! Defintely vastly better than roll20

Yeah, I good with the message, but that’s one of the most uncomfortable looking photos I’ve seen. Where are they supposed to be looking?

Hah, that’s fine, because it would be for our group activity they’d be fine with making accounts. I never used discord to chat with people outside my small group of irl friends.

I don’t think immigration borders would be the main issue. It’s pretty easy to get into most countries for the price of a return plane ticket, and then you just don’t leave. Unless teleportation was much cheaper and more convenient it wouldn’t change much. I think it would have an impact on customs and smuggling. Pretty easy to bring anything to anywhere without ant chance of interception.

But the biggest shift would be security. Presuming anyone could just make anything appear anywhere, I think the rich and powerful would be very afraid. If teleporting a homemade bomb into someone’s palatial mcmansion was as easy as 3d printing a gun then people wouldn’t have to even go full Luigi to terrorise those people. Remember the anthrax scare? Posting poison is one thing, but just making clouds of it appear in bedrooms or offices with destinctive oval-shapes, would be quite a different level.

I just looked at the top 10 posts for the last month, and 10 newest posts, and they’re really not that negative. I’d say it’s a third quite positive, a third fediverse / tech, and a third quite negative.

But humans perceive negative information much more strongly (at least according to some studies) so even though they’re evenly split, the negative ones might stand out and be more salient. This month’s top ten included “Why does it feel like evil is winning in the world?” (negative) versus "what’s your favourite local dish from your part of the world? (positive). The positive one could feel small and trivial while the negative one feels big, serious and apocalyptic - so of course it stands out more.

As well as salience, people are more likely to post about a problem than a solution (it is asklemmy after all), so it’s really going to be problems, big and small, or fun / silly questions like the local food one. Even more neutral questions about advice are often revolving around a negative problem. I’ve just posted asking about good alternatives to discord (fairly neutral I think?) and I’m hoping for positive “this other thing is great!” responses, but I’m kinda asking because I’m sick of enshitification (which is negative).

The other possibility is that the new and top rankings are not representative. Perhaps posts are mostly mixed but the ones that get popular are more negative, but the occasional popular poistive one is such a pleasant surprise that it ends up making it to the top ten.

Interesting! How do you tie it the right way?

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Yup, flashcards and spaced repitition are pretty well evidenced for memorisation. I’m also a fan of mind maps, but that’s more for linking ideas and concepts together, not just learning acronyms, but mixing the two works well.

There are other memorisation techniques that you might find helpful depending on how keen you are (visualisation, methods of loci, etc) but for most people they feel like to much trouble to learn. Creating mnemonics and associating stupid images and stuff with otherwise arbitary acronyms can help. I can still remember all my physics equations from high-school QIT PIV etc because of stupid nonsense phrases I associated with them.

Yeah, seen something like this in the UK. You take a scanner and scan everything as you shop, then just lay the bill as you exit. To begin with they even offered a discount I think. But they didn’t have a weigh option, just that they’d check some carts ‘at random’. My understanding was, like self checkouts, even if there’s a little more theft it’s more than made up for by less workers.

Defintely. But it’s not so much I feel morally bad, I just hate reddit so I don’t enjoy using it. I guess I was hidden from the worst of it by using boost, but now when I want to use reddit briefly (to ask some niche question that I won’t get a lot of responses on lemmy) I use the website and the experience is so unpleasant. There’s now all these awful gamification popups, “Keep your 1/300 streak going!” bullshit.

Okay, that makes sense. I took OP’s question to be about what notifications you use/want and which you turn off. They describe allowing only calls and messages, and were asking what else people permitted. E.g. I don’t allow my lemmy app to notify me about replies, but I’m sure some people do.

Defintely hook up.

I’m sure FOSS apps are less intrusive, but they still use notifications surely? I’d generally want a calendar or messager app to send me notifications, but I might want to block a specific app depending on my use case.

I don’t know how it’d work but I’d be interested in something to deal with spam/scams. That annoying “Fediverse chick” thing, sure i blocked her, as can other individuals. And I guess the account could be flagged to whatever instance the account is registered to? But if it became a frequent problem, with bot account spamming people, it would be handy to have a way a tracking what accounts are getting blocked by lots of people.

Even if I wouldn’t want to autoblock accounts just because they’re unpopular, I might want to stop or mark as ‘caution’ private messages from “problem” accounts.

When I was getting settled on my dose the doctor told me to keep upping the dose until things got worse rather than better. And there was defintely a point (54mg xaggatin, a slow release concerta type) where it was too much, I didnt want to relax I just wanted to get shit done. I’m sure it could have been efficient but it didn’t feel like me, and felt kinda stressy. So I’ve been on the dose below that (36mg) for a couple of years.

The amazing novelty wears off, and i can go back to my old avoidance routines, especially if I’m tired or sick, or anxious about something. But when my mood is good, and I’m taking care of myself, I can be efficient and focus on stuff well, while before that wad almost impossible unless I had a last minute deadline to panic me into focus.

The way I think about it is the drugs don’t make it easy for me to focus, they just make it possible. So now I can do all those things people said before about breaking tasks down, and setting manageable goals and stuff to make tasks achievable. It’s not easy, but it isn’t easy for most people. It’s just no longer impossible. But it takes a lot relearning, trying out things that wouldn’t have worked before and it doesn’t always work. But it’s so much better than before.

Thanks! It’s defintely more stuff like long term stuff, helping me schedule stuff or make appointments, reminding me to stop avoiding opening my mail, etc. And there’s lots of stuff I help then with, their blindspots and weaknesses.

That’s what I think makes a good relationship - being with someone with complementary skills, who you trust, who wants the best for you, and who it’s a pleasure to help not just because you love them, but because what they find impossible is easy for you (and vice versa).

Hah ! No, quite the opposite. I do almost all the cooking and cleaning, because I like making my partner happy. But I can’t find the motivation to do it for myself. When I was single, I would invite friends over for food as often as I could, because I love cooking, and I’d make exciting and challenging things that we’d all enjoy. But if it’s just me I spend a few hours being indicisive and then just eat so much toast I feel sick and feel sad.

The structure my partner provides is someone who expects meals to be at meal times, and will judge me if I just start eating a family sized pack of snacks at 3pm because I’m peckish. Or will be disappointed if I promise to do something then just scroll my phone instead. At the time it annoys me not being free to indulge myself, but when I actually get the chance I realise how little I enjoy it. It’s been really helpful to realise that just because I hate structure and rules and people’s expectations… I hate the goblin I become without them much more.

Perhaps I don’t think about cousins enough to have considered that. To me “sibling” refers to my brothers and sisters, and therefore extends naturally to “their kids” more than to other family members on the same generation. The old English word that sibling was revived from meant “kinfolk” and would have included all family whether brothers, nieces, cousins or aunts.

If I talk about “my nildren” it’s maybe a bit too possessive, and “nids” Is gross, but I’d be open to other suggestions! Niblings is defintely kinda silly, which was part of the charm when they little anklebiters.

Ah, I didn’t know that. A quick search suggests that most of the telemetry and tracking have been removed… But yeah, I might look at other options.