Awful, depressed, worthless, financially ruined. Currently sitting on my friends couch after sleeping here because my wife and I had the worst fight we ever had over the past 2 days, and I don’t we will recover as we both decided it’s probably best to just part ways but not sure how to make that work yet due to kids and schedules. This is a fun weekend…
I lost the person I felt was my soulmate about 8 years ago to mental illness after she fell down the conspiracy theory well, and eventually changed from a happy healthy empathetic liberal to a MAGA type person in just a couple years. It was, in some ways, worse than losing them to death.
But 8 years (and a lot of therapy) later I feel like life is bright, and I look forward to each day now. I don’t mean to say “Hey just wait the better part of a decade and you’ll feel great”, just that we are resilient and even though things feel terrible for you right now, no matter which way it goes you will eventually feel good again. Stay strong.
And let me give you some unsolicited advice in case you do end up splitting. Try not to be mean or vindictive to your future ex-partner during the process. Not for their sake (they will be out of your life soon), but yours. I regret and am ashamed of things I said and did during my divorce.
I know it doesn’t feel like it now, but things will get better. It will take time, and I know you’ve heard that before, but I promise you it’s true. It will take longer than you think, but each day will get a little easier than the next. Stay the course, and know that it will get better.
It’s OK to feel helpless, and like your whole life is over, but I promise you it’s not. And it’s also OK to feel suicidal, that’s normal unfortunately. Please reach out to someone to talk to, a friend, a counselor, or hell, call 988 for the hotline to talk to someone about it. It helps.
You will get through this, your kids will still love you as long as you prioritize their well being and spend time with them whenever you can. The marriage collapsing is not your fault, it always takes 2 and your spouse is just as responsible.
It’s going to take time to figure all this out. Like real time, on the scale of years. Humans are stronger than we think to recover from things like this, it just takes time.
Awful, depressed, worthless, financially ruined. Currently sitting on my friends couch after sleeping here because my wife and I had the worst fight we ever had over the past 2 days, and I don’t we will recover as we both decided it’s probably best to just part ways but not sure how to make that work yet due to kids and schedules. This is a fun weekend…
I lost the person I felt was my soulmate about 8 years ago to mental illness after she fell down the conspiracy theory well, and eventually changed from a happy healthy empathetic liberal to a MAGA type person in just a couple years. It was, in some ways, worse than losing them to death.
But 8 years (and a lot of therapy) later I feel like life is bright, and I look forward to each day now. I don’t mean to say “Hey just wait the better part of a decade and you’ll feel great”, just that we are resilient and even though things feel terrible for you right now, no matter which way it goes you will eventually feel good again. Stay strong.
And let me give you some unsolicited advice in case you do end up splitting. Try not to be mean or vindictive to your future ex-partner during the process. Not for their sake (they will be out of your life soon), but yours. I regret and am ashamed of things I said and did during my divorce.
Jesus dude, sorry to hear that. Sincerely.
I know it doesn’t feel like it now, but things will get better. It will take time, and I know you’ve heard that before, but I promise you it’s true. It will take longer than you think, but each day will get a little easier than the next. Stay the course, and know that it will get better.
It’s OK to feel helpless, and like your whole life is over, but I promise you it’s not. And it’s also OK to feel suicidal, that’s normal unfortunately. Please reach out to someone to talk to, a friend, a counselor, or hell, call 988 for the hotline to talk to someone about it. It helps.
You will get through this, your kids will still love you as long as you prioritize their well being and spend time with them whenever you can. The marriage collapsing is not your fault, it always takes 2 and your spouse is just as responsible.
It’s going to take time to figure all this out. Like real time, on the scale of years. Humans are stronger than we think to recover from things like this, it just takes time.