• Cheradenine@sh.itjust.works
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      1 year ago

      It would have been criminal under the law. I cheated, she cheated. It was the law, whatever agreement she and I had was immaterial.

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        1 year ago

        That’s just how the system is. My wife and I are into bdsm. Legally speaking I’m guilty of spousal abuse because she legally can’t consent.

        So we just ignore the law. But if we ever divorced acrimoniously she could rake me over the fucking coals.

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            1 year ago

            A woman can’t consent to being hit in my state. Or at least that was the common consensus when we were social about it.

            I just looked it up and some random website says it’s fine with consent so either the entire community was misinformed, something has changed, or that website was full of shit.

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                1 year ago

                Edited with more info. Idk. In Michigan if you hit your wife, my understanding is the cops will prosecute you whether she agrees to file charges or not.

                For the record we are both in our fifties.