I would suggest couples counseling with a therapist that has experience with ADHD clients.

I just started playing with Dockhand and it looks like it has a built in update schedule mechanism. It’s fills a comparable role as Portainer, so maybe check that out.

It’s hard to be thoughtful about why you aren’t good at swimming while you are actively fighting to keep your head above water.

Welcome to the club. It sounds like you have a journey of learning and healing. I personally find some YouTube channels helpful you may want the check out:

https://youtube.com/@healthygamergg

https://youtube.com/@howtoadhd

I know it can be really hard. You will probably oscillate between “This is fine, I got this” and “This is impossible and it will never get better”. Just know your not alone in the experience and you are capable of improving things. It will take time and help, but you can do it.

I would make an FAQ. I think for getting tone it is important to know what things are hard facts, what things are more subjective preferences, and what’s things are “we had to make a choice between options with no clear ‘best’ option”.

Has there ever been a more elegant “fuck around and find out”?

My experience has been the more I assume I am an idiot and plan accordingly, the less true it is in practice.

Perl is fine so long as you write code based on the assumption it will be maintained an idiot that doesn’t know the code at all and needs hand holding. And that is why 6 months later I can understand the code I wrote.

I see no problem with using an extra precise spoon.

I would be inclined to think that if you are just renting a machine or VM and all the configuration/maintenance is your problem it would be close enough. But I am not a mod and don’t want to be.

My understanding is that Scrum is a tool box. You figure out what tools fit for your team. The problem arises when people are in charge that don’t understand the what the team is doing or the toolset provided by Scrum. They then try to use every tool and it goes poorly.

My friend just upgraded from a GTX 1070 to an ARC B580. His motherboard was pretty old so getting bios updated with resizeable bar was some work. He also chose reinstall with Ubuntu because it was the version of Linux that was listed as officially supported. After that he has been happy with the performance increase he has gotten.

I have a Pfsense router and run HAproxy on it. Most of the services I have run on 3 VMs in a Docker Swarm. HAproxy can point to all three and just uses the first to respond. I think this is what you are going for. I haven’t tested how robust this solution is because my primary motivation was wanting to play with Docker Swarm once I accepted K8s was not worth the effort.

They make me think of colored clay.

Maybe talk to a couple of people you have an established relationship with that you trust. Explain the behavior in yourself that you want to change and establish a sign they can give when they think you are doing that behavior. Something simple like just holding up a hand in an indication of “stop” as one idea. The goal being that this will help you be aware of when you act this way and you can reflect on why you are doing it in that moment.

This whole idea is based on the premise that things you are aware of you can influence/control. If this doesn’t feel like the right path for you, no worries.

I am no expert, so grains of salt and such. But my assumption is that it’s a marketing expense. They get a lot of people familiar with cloud flare services and some of them later need a professional level solution. So people use what they are already familiar with. This is the same reason why tech companies provide hardware/software to schools for cheap/free.

I wonder if there is potential value in yeast for mass production and delivery of vaccines? I could see a small drink of anti-viral like you can get probiotic drinks today. The beer seems a gimmick, but maybe the yeast could have value.

That is just the argument of free will vs bundle of chemical reactions and genetic instructions.

Funny how tools are useful. But a person who is a tool is not.

It will be controlled by Truenas not Proxmox. Truenas can add swap space to each drive automatically: https://www.ixsystems.com/documentation/truenas/11.3-U2.2/storage.html

But you probably already have existing drives so that doesn’t help. This might though: https://wiki.debian.org/Swap

But be aware that Truenas is design to be an appliance and doesn’t really want you tinkering under the hood. So you may have to manually add the SWAP after each boot of TN.

I would guess the best long term fix would be moving services out of the TN VM and into a different VM.